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To have a love/hate relationship with breastfeeding?

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Fluffyhood · 26/01/2021 14:01

DD is nearly 2 and is obsessed with breastfeeding.
I love breastfeeding her, I fed my eldest until 18 months where it came to a natural mutual end and I figured my DD would be somewhat similar however we've passed the 18 month mark and she's got more reliant not less.
She will not accept milk (cows or plant based) in any form so I cannot cut down any feeds, she just views me as a milk machine and anytime I'm sat down she wants it. She's never slept through regularly and I even have to sleep in a certain position as thats the way she likes to feed at night. She also strokes, fiddles, plays with the other breast when feeding. To her my breasts are completely hers and sometimes it all gets too much and I want to stop.
But I love it so much too, I love how it can comfort her in any situation, how she feeds to sleep and how it's still giving her so many nutritional/immunity benefits.

AIBU to feel this way, do others feel like this or is it just me?

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BarbiesWorld · 26/01/2021 14:06

Same. DS is one at the beginning of Feb and we gave up trying bottles (in any way) months ago. He will literally pull my top down if I'm sat and he wants some 🙄

Going to try him with cows milk soonish but I have a feeling it will go down like a lead balloon. He "plays" with the other one too like your DD and it drives me mad. I hate that he only ever wants me and that I'm more of a milk machine than anything else and that he will literally only sleep on a night if there's a boob right there.

But I also love the closeness and the sleepy cuddles.

AStudyinPink · 26/01/2021 14:09

I breastfed my baby DD until she was nearly 1, but I would have hated to go on until she was a toddler using my boobs as a chew toy. YANBU to hate it. And I’m not sure at nearly 2 how much additional benefit it provides over a solid food diet.

Twizbe · 26/01/2021 14:16

I fed my youngest to 17 months and would have carried on longer if she'd wanted to. As much as I loved it, there were days it got too much.

If you want to stop, you can. At 2 she doesn't need milk. She can get all the dairy she needs from cheese, yoghurt etc.

She is also old enough that you can tell her no and set the boundaries around feeding. It's ok to say 'not now'. Wear harder to access clothes, distract her, only give in when you want to feed her.

She is 2, she will get the message quickly and it won't harm her in the long run

KeepWashingThoseHands · 26/01/2021 14:16

Reciprocally stopped, although prompted by me, at 14 months.

It was easy: no formula to buy or bottles to prep, easy feeder, portable and instant comfort etc. But then I was the milk machine and it all fell on me and I got fed up of being ‘touched out’ and didn’t want someone clawing at me. Expressing and top ups not an option for varying reasons.

I enjoyed it and worked v well for us but then I’d had enough and it was time to stop.

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