To feel like crying?

[listsandbudgets]

I have headache from hell and I've literally been sick from pain and I'm aching all over.

DD ywar 10 is stressed from having to spend so many hours on laptop and takes it out on me

DS year 4 has full online timetable but has to be almost constantly supervised.

I've got an important work meeting later today.

DP is working all morning but planning to take over later so I do meeting.

Everyone keeps asking me whats for lunch, dinner, snacks.. Incant even think about it I'm sick to death of cooking every f*cki g meal.

I can't do this.. need to sleep .. but trying to keep the peace and failing

Just feel awful

Take a breath and give yourself a break (mentally anyway). It sounds like you might have a migraine rather than a headache; have you tried migraine medication or aspirin? It won’t hurt either child for you to declare a couple of hours off for you all while you sleep and they watch a film or something that’s quiet.
Also let them sort out their own snacks and lunch; tell them to look in the cupboard or fridge and work it out themselves

You need some time to yourself. (You know that already, obviously.) Can you book a couple of hours another time to have a "work meeting" where actually your just in the room, on your own, headphones on, eyes closed, listening to some music you like? Or get outside for a few hours?

I feel sorry for you lot in the UK, consequences of the coronavirus on your lives sucks. ☹️ 💐

You need to take a couple of hours alone. Dark room, ice pack on nape of neck and forehead for 15 minutes. Sip water, painkillers advisable. No interruptions and just do some deep breathing. You are no good to anyone until you put yourself first today. They will cope.

@listsandbudgets I feel for you.
Would your 10yo be able to make their own lunch?

Perhaps you could make a batch of tomato or pesto pasta to last a couple of days? A batch of jacket potatoes or as cheesy as it is sounds, a tray of cottage pie?

I often get flatbread or wraps and whip something inside for the DC. Sausages, ham and salad or whatever you have at hand.

And give yourself a break. Put on some tunes, take a step outside, take a few good breaths and take in the scenery. Shower and give yourself a quick pedicure. Or sorr through a quick job that will give you immediate satisfaction - yesterday I quickly went through our medicine cupboard and it bought me immense pleasure. (Sorry, possibly not helping).

The monotony of enforced screen time is not doing any of us any good. I have eyestrain as a result and DC are slowly becoming apathetic to their online learning. I'm going to take some of my own advice today - although I do have a deadline to meet.

Pausing and trying to take a few sensible steps to reduce these added stressors really does break things up. Be kind to yourself first... but try stay as disciplined as possible too. If you have time after your meeting when DP is out with the DC, use this to think of all the things that are going well and what could be done better and how.

Sending

If this headache isn’t common for you get a Corona test as a foul multi day headache is a common initial symptom. Then tell the family they’re looking after themselves and get in bed for a bit

Please take the pressure off - your DC's education isn't going to collapse if you all step back a bit. Book an online shop - get cereal, biscuits, healthy snacks, lots of milk, breads etc so that your Year 10 can sort themselves out and give them the responsibility of feeding the younger one.

We regularly get emailed by admin who've been contacted by anxious pupils and parents and we totally get it. We understand. Send an email to each respective school to say that you need to back off from the routine for a little bit. Your Year 10 DC may have deadlines, but contact their Head of Year for support.

You sound exhausted. Please rest.

Sorry - by 'we', I meant teachers. We totally get it. We are under such scrutiny to deliver high ended, worthwhile tasks yet so many pupils and parents are exhausted trying to keep up with the pace.

Pain all over, headache, sickness - definitely get a Covid test. Sounds like my family member who tested positive.

Sounds like you had a migraine. Have a rest and leave everything it will still be there when you feel better

Can’t say much to help you but I feel your pain. I have a young son with autism who is beyond stressed by this situation. He can’t understand why there is no roadmap / plan out of it! He is desperate to have his hair cut - having his hair cut is part of his routine and must happen every six weeks. I am trying to work part time with online meetings and my husband works full time. The situation is getting impossible and damaging both our mental health’s. I understand the situation is serious and we all have to make sacrifices but I feel that the younger generation is having to do all of the giving whilst older people are at the front of every queue!

How are you feeling op?

Hope you're feeling better 💐