To be over this job and want to quit?

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Not to be too outting but I work (from home) in a team where we all do the exact work, although sometimes it’s switched up - different tasks but we can all do them.

I’ve not been able to work one specific thing due to a technical issue (as have around 3 more in a 16 person team) - I’ve reported it myself, had talks with the head person who deals with this, had meetings where he took over my screen etc -

One colleague in particular has continually gone on about it being unfair in meetings, made me feel guilty for something so can’t control. Final straw came today when she private messaged me to specifically tell her how much work I had done (she’s same level as me) and when I asked why she was extremely vague. Can only assume she then reported it to my manager.

I just can’t take the constant guilt and being watched over and questioned. I’m trying my hardest and do so much work on the other tasks so I don’t slack - and I know I won’t sleep well tonight because I feel sick at having to go to work tomorrow.

Are you being proactive about chasing up the fix and keeping your manager updated? If so have you asked if there's anything else she needs you to pick up - or offered to pick up some of the work you can do from your colleague?

There's not much more you can do than that!

Well it’s not for trying is it OP!

Rather than ringing you why can’t your colleague try and help you get it fixed?

Sounds mean to me, but I hear you on the wanting to quit, that’s why I am awake too.

Keeping your manager updated? Of course

I don’t need to or could even offer to do my colleagues work as we all do work from the same pot (if that makes sense).

Rather than ringing you why can’t your colleague try and help you get it fixed?

If one of the head people in IT can’t fix it then I’m not sure what my colleague can do?

So you being unable to do this part of the job means no one else has extra work to do? You're just doing more of the other work?

Next time she starts about how much work she's done, come back with how much you've also done. If she starts in meetings, don't engage and if your manager questions you point out it's a technical thing that has been logged and followed up by IT.

If you want to quit then quit. Personally I would ignore be raising your colleagues behaviour with your manager and

I'd be taking her behaviour to your manager and HR if she doesn't pipe down. Shame how one person can totally spoil everything.

Speaking as one of the literally millions looking for a job right now, don't quit until you've got something lined up, unless you have a very well padded financial cushion.

In the meantime, I'd get in touch with your manager with screenshots, this is bullying. And then maybe join the rest of us on LinkedIn on the quiet..

Please don't quit over this! You are trying to fix it and remember - she isn't your manager. She is a colleague. As long as you are able to work effectively for the working day with the remaining tasks, whilst also keeping IT and management in the loop about the fault, you are doing fine.

Don't quit, that would be foolish.

You need to raise this with your manager as an issue. Say you are sick of being targeted for a IT issue that you have no control over and that you want him / her to have a word with your colleague to stop the constant digs.

Your colleague's behaviour is unacceptable but if it's the only thing that's annoying you about your job then it's not worth being unemployed over. It won't prove anything to anyone else and unless you've got another job lined up then you're only going to be worse off.

Try talking to your colleague first. Tell your manager what's going on, tell them you intend to try and sort it out yourself but will need their support if anything happens, then ask your colleague for a one to one and explain how frustrated you are that you can't do x task, but that you're filling in the gap by taking on more of other tasks. It's completely acceptable to explain to her that when she brings this up repeatedly in meetings she's upsetting you over something you have no control over and you'd like her to stop. If she goes on about workload in meetings, point out that you're all working hard. Reply to her message and ask why she needs to know?

If she doesn't respond well to this, escalate it to your manager, explain what you need your manager to do (reassure your colleague that you're all working equally hard but also explain the behaviours that are unacceptable and need to stop), and ask for a copy of the company's grievance process just in case.

Its irritating and she sounds a pain but i wouldn't quit over it.

I would call you manager and let her know you are feeling frustrated and anxious about the IT issue. Ask if there are any other ways around it and explain steps taken and how you are working round it.

On round one i wouldn't mention your colleague.

If colleague messages again close her down. 'Thanks for you concern. Manager fully aware of situation. Got to dash got lots on'. Do not respond to any responses.

If she persists i'd go to manager and ask if there is a problem as you are getting unusual messages enquiring about your work. I actually think manager will be peed off at busy body.

No, just keep doing your job and flagging technical issues. Reply politely to colleague and ignore the guilt trip.