To feel sad it's my last day of pregnancy

[HarleyQuinn21]

Hi all,

Just a light hearted one really but I feel so sad that after tonight I won't be pregnant anymore as my beautiful baby boy is arriving via ELCS.
I've had a horrific pregnancy, HG, hospitals, scares etc and honestly I couldn't wait for it to be over especially not to mention the living hell that is the third trimester eg peeing all the time, no sleeping and the pain but it feels like this nine months have flown by and I feel like I need another nine months but I'm just having a bath and watching him wriggle and move and I'm really going to miss it like keeping him all safe and snug in my womb I mean I know after tomorrow he'll be wiggling and being safe in my arms and stuff but it's just making me cry a little bit, I think as well I'm so scared to actually be a mum, I have no idea what I'm doing I'm sure I'll learn very quickly. Did anyone else miss being pregnant or once baby was out was you like "phew thank god for that?"

I couldn't wait for pregnancy to be over, everyone says that the newborn phase is horrendously difficult but I found it so much easier than the last few weeks of being pregnant.

Ahhh I remember that feeling! I remember saying to my husband - 'I'm torn between being excited not to be pregnant anymore but said that I'll miss my bump!'

When baby was here I had fleeting moments in the first couple of weeks of missing it just being 'us' when she was in my tummy, but I didn't actually miss the pregnancy. It was nice to sleep comfortably and not need someone to pull me off the couch

I'm sure what you're feeling is perfectly normal, our hormones are a funny thing. Good luck to you tomorrow, and enjoy those new baby snuggles

Hey! Congratulations and good lucky for tomorrow how exciting!

I was a mixture of both; thank god it was over and baby was here - but I did miss my bump ... missed seeing them wiggle inside but now I'm pregnant again I'm hating it and can't wait for it to be over again ha!

*sad

Totally get it OP, I had an ELCS with my second and i remember sitting in the waiting lounge ready to go up and hugging my bump really protectively, trying to soak up every last second.

Sorry you’ve had such a shit pregnancy and good luck tomorrow

Yes your feeling are completely normal. But in reality, the best is yet to come. That feeling when you first meet your baby is like nothing else you will ever experience,. When I am in a crappy situation, eg having dental work, I drift off and try to relive the moment to relax me. Honestly, I wish I could bottle that feeling.

You will miss your bump and that 'special' feeling pregnancy gives you, but instead you get to gaze at your beautiful baby

Have a wonderful day tomorrow, ELCS are lovely. So calm and relaxing. Enjoy meeting your gorgeous baby and don't be putting pressure on yourself with breastfeeding and stuff, or any parenting stuff. Take it all at your own pace, you will be a pro in no time.

This is so sweet - print it out and he’ll read it one day

Totally get it - I was exactly the same. I cried for ages because I missed my bump so much, I had a really hard pregnancy like you and yet really missed it. The feeling of having him in your arms will be the best yet ❤️ and you'll love each bit the further time passes.... I still miss it 10 months on though so am TTC again 😂😂

the weirdest thing when they are newborn is looking at this actual baby and thinking-you were just inside me! How on earth did you fit?

Awww, good luck-you'll be great i'm sure. Just try and get a really good sleep tonight!

I tell you what's really weird, suddenly realising you have nothing in your tummy anymore. It's empty and all the movements have gone. I popped out to the corner shop for about 3 minutes when my first baby was about 3 days old leaving him with DH. Suddenly felt really odd and alone, like my constant companion for the last 9 months had gone. (But don't worry about that it's only fleeting).

Literally the only thing I missed about being pregnant was balancing bowls on my bump to eat. That was it.

Babies are great for snuggles, you'll love it.

Good luck for tomorrow. I am 100% team 'phew thank god thats over'. I have now had all my babies and never, ever want to go through pregnancy again. I will miss (some parts) of never having a newborn again but miss pregnancy? No way.

I was so over being pregnant. I was overdue and ready to have a baby. I could lie on my front, heartburn disappeared instantly, walking upstairs was no longer a mammoth expedition. I didn't have a c-section though. I imagine that is different as you know when birth is happening.

Yes! My dh and I calculated early Dec to be my due date. Midwife said absolutely not, too early, due early January. Ds came along 4 weeks ‘early’ on the exact date we predicted. However, I really was thrown for a loop. Of course when he got here it was wonderful but I had a really really easy pregnancy and I did mourn that time I lost for quite awhile!

Yes I absolutely know what you mean as I felt the same the night before my babies’ births. It didn’t last long though as it’s so lovely having your baby in your arms. And that first sleep you get when you’ve had your baby is wonderful! Even after a c section and even if it isn’t a long sleep! Good luck and enjoy meeting your lovely baby

Awww! I'm 34 weeks so a while behind you - but this is exactly what I was thinking earlier! I'll love the bundle in my arms but miss his little wriggling movements in my belly. It's truly a feeling like no other; it sounds sickly sweet but I'm so, so grateful to experience such an amazing thing. But you'll have your little one there in your arms! You'll be able to see them, smell them, hear them! I bet the longing for bump will soon fade. Maybe write down how you're feeling in detail in a little journal for the future? Good luck tomorrow!

Thank you everyone, I just had a little cry and a "chat" with him while I was in the bath and said I'd miss him but can't wait to meet him and start being his mummy "for real" even though I'm already his mummy so ready to be rid of the heartburn though, I somehow forgot about that haha x

I missed having a bump for a few days after having a C-section with my first, although I forgot all about it once I realised how nice it was to lay on my stomach again and be able to put my own socks on.

I miss my twin bump and I was huge and it hurt to sit down and I couldn't sleep comfortably but my god they were less trouble inside me 🤣 those early months were hellish and then it was lockdown and homeschooling a 5 yo alongside them

aw, i only wanted them to stay in there when the head was crowning good luck op, how exciting!

my first was a boy, he’s 14 now and screaming at his playstation. enjoy every moment, it truly does fly by. i wish i could go back and do it all again.

I missed it a bit, until I settled down with my feet tucked under me on the sofa (impossible for the previous several months) with a cup of strong coffee (also not advised). It was BLISS. I vastly prefer being Not Pregnant.

I hated every single second of pregnancy and much prefer them on the outside!

I couldn't wait for pregnancy to be over, everyone says that the newborn phase is horrendously difficult but I found it so much easier than the last few weeks of being pregnant.

This. Totally this!

I'm in the "phew, thank God he's out" camp. Pregnancy sucked. Having my little boy with me is so much better, even when he's being a total pain in the arse.

How are you feeling @HarleyQuinn21!! Hope you have your beautiful baby safe in your arms, or will do very soon! Xxxx