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EX partner staying to help with kids whilst isolating

19 replies

Notlong2go · 25/01/2021 21:03

Myself and my 17 month old son have tested positive for Covid and so has his dad. Think he caught it from his grandparents on his dads side.
My 9 year old son and 9 week old baby came back with a negative result luckily.

So we are isolating and children’s dad came to isolate here so he could help out (I didn’t ask him to) but, I thought you know it will probably make things a lot easier.

Well I was very wrong, I’m so p*ed off tbh, he doesn’t ever help with the baby which ok I prefer to do it anyway but, he had our 1 year old downstairs this morning so I could have an extra hour in bed with baby. Came upstairs afterwards and told me I could get up now so he could play on his PlayStation in my bedroom.

He Was on the PlayStation for 6 hours whilst I juggled the kids downstairs and when I mentioned that he could be helping more I got verbal abuse.

Because I don’t work I’m a bum, I am lazy and only feed and dress the kids. I’m lazy because, I cherish some extra time in bed as I have been doing everything as a single parent.

I guess I’m just venting but, I am feeling really down and isolated being cooped up in the house and to add to it I am being made to feel like crap by because I expect the kids dad to help out more. He doesn’t spend much time with the kids usually because he works so why shouldn’t he spend the time he can with them whilst he’s isolating?

Or is he right in saying I should do it all because, I am the mother?

OP posts:
LibrariesGiveUsPower45321 · 25/01/2021 21:05

Kick him out. He’s not helping you at all.

Still1nLove · 25/01/2021 21:07

Definitely kick him out, what help is he to you?

SarahBellam · 25/01/2021 21:07

Kick him out. He doesn’t need to be there and there’s no point in him being there.

Emeraldshamrock · 25/01/2021 21:07

At least you now why he is an ex.
He fooled you into thinking he'd step up he is a dickhead.
I hope you feel better asap then fling him out he is useless.

glasgowLil · 25/01/2021 21:09

Can you tell him to go home? He sounds like an arsehole and he’s not helping at all. If you’ve got COVID, are you feeling ok? The combination of COVID and a nine week old baby must be really tough. He should be waiting on you hand and foot.

SeeYouInAnotherLife · 25/01/2021 21:09

Tell him to go home. How dare he say these things to you in your home? How dare he? You’re better off without him, mate.

Givemeabreak88 · 25/01/2021 21:18

Why on earth did you move your ex in Confused what was you expecting

LagunaBubbles · 25/01/2021 21:22

Well there's a good reason thankfully he's an ex!

LagunaBubbles · 25/01/2021 21:23

But seriously why are you letting him talk to you like this, no matter how ill you are.

WeeDangerousSpike · 25/01/2021 21:28

If he's not making your life easier there's no point him being there. Tell him to fuck off home.

Notlong2go · 25/01/2021 22:54

@glasgowLil I’ve felt rough but, I haven’t felt too bad (touch wood) just more worried about passing it to my little man.

I have asked him to leave so he is going to tomorrow.
@LagunaBubbles I don’t just sit back and take it anymore but, I have to restrain myself around the children 😂

OP posts:
MadameButterface · 25/01/2021 22:56

Get him gone tonight

Momof4x2616x · 25/01/2021 23:08

I would rather chew my own arm off than have my ex partner and father of my eldest two move in with me!

Notlong2go · 25/01/2021 23:17

We had been on good terms for sake of the kids but, yes he is still a dick and obviously can’t be civil

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MissMarpleDarling · 26/01/2021 02:01

Voted YABU. For still having him in your house!! Tell him to bloody leave.

lovelemoncurd · 26/01/2021 02:39

He's your X for a reason. Why on earth did you think that arrangement would work? Baffled!

SuperCaliFragalistic · 26/01/2021 04:49

Yep. I agree with everyone else. Kick him out. I am sure he can look after the kids at his place for a few hours.

123becauseicouldntthinkofone · 26/01/2021 06:56

Good god sounds like you have been isolating with 3 kids, glad you told him to sod off, fingers crossed he does actually go today without a baby strop

glasgowLil · 29/01/2021 17:46

Hope he’s now left and you are feeling much better. Hugs xx

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