I’m so worried I’ve made a huge mistake and feel like a terrible parent.
I’ve struggled with my 7 year old sons behaviour for a while now, the last year it has become really difficult and in particular since mid December. I’m finding it so hard to cope, he’s extremely angry and is destructive, very impatient and generally seems to annoy his younger siblings (I know that is quite common - but I feel it’s gone beyond normal sibling annoyance) he has two younger siblings age 6 and almost 2 who don’t behave like this at all. I’ve been in contact with the GP who have said his behaviour doesn’t warrant a referral for support, and most recently his school who have agreed to pursue a referral to the school doctor and possible investigation into dyslexia (I hadn’t suspected this at all)
It all came to a head on Friday when he had a huge angry tantrum and began throwing chairs around, shouting in the 2 years old face saying he was going to kill us. I genuinely had no idea what to do. I felt so worried and stressed as I couldn’t calm him down. I called 111 as I didn’t know what else to do (I’m not very close to my mum/mil and find them really unhelpful in regards his behaviour issues) I broke down and said I have no idea how to cope any more. They were helpful in calming both of us down. They said they would make a referral to social work due to the situation. I’ve just had a call from them to say they are going to arrange a multi agency meeting with them and the school.
I’m now really worried, and feel like a complete failure, I’ve totally failed my son. Is it normal for SS to be involved in situations like this? Have I made a huge mistake. I’m so scared. I generally feel like I’m a helpful, nice person to my children and they are going to think I’m terrible. Will they take him away from me?