Would you be annoyed about this?

[LemonanLime]

Ever since DC was born, DP and I have never put pictures of her on social media, nor put any information about her on social media.

Today I noticed that my cousin put a photo of DC on a social media platform without consulting me first. I've written to her to ask her to take the photo down, and I explained that we don't put photos of DC online.

AIBU to think that's it's ridiculous that people feel it's acceptable to put photos of someone else's children on the internet without mentioning to the parents first?

I agree with you. We'll have this same rule when ours is born, already discussed it with my mum who weirdly understood despite my sisters, and her, sharing loads of their kids on fb. There was a thing going round with a picture of a kid, their name, age, school, teacher, favourite subject etc. My sister would 'like' someone elses so it would come up on my page. I'd know everything I needed to kidnap this kid from school and I have no idea who the mother is, except her full name, job, and everything about her kid!
All you can do is tell her to take it down but YANBU to be annoyed that you have to.

It wouldn’t bother me but if you aren’t comfortable with it; asking her to take it down is fine. If it is normal in her circle I doubt she gave it much thought and she was genuine just sharing a nice photo/thought.

Yabu. I don't understand why this attitude what do you think is going to happen?

Absolutely your decision OP. I would just mention though - as a parent of teenagers, there's always been one child in each of my kid's class who's parents didn't allow photos taken / uploaded online. Not safeguarding, just personal preference.

I did always feel quite sorry for those kids as in all group / party photos, sleepover photos, team photos, activity photos, they were always told to go and stand to the side as their mum 'didn't want photos of them shared'. They always looked very sad and left out of the fun. They didn't appear in any photos of my boy's childhoods which is a real shame for them and my boys.

@User7312019

Well I hope you called the police to let them know

People have different views on social media images of children and some wouldn’t even think twice. It doesn’t offend me when people do it without asking, it’s their response to being asked to take it down that’s important.

As you say. People have different views.

So im not sure why as it wouldn't offend you, you think op should be fine with it (and are flippant about it).

Some people don't think and put photos up with no ill-intent, some (like a "friend" of mine) don't care if it means they'll get a bit of attention/likes from it. I didn't have photos of my DC on social media for a good reason, my friend was well aware and when seeing my DD for the first time took multiple photos when I was in another room and put them (shared them?) on Snapchat. I had no idea as I don't use snapchat, as she obviously knows, but a mutual friend told me and sent me screenshots. Loads of stupid filters to boot. I didn't say anything but I made sure she didn't have the opportunity again.

I agree with you.
I dont want my kids faces all over social media.
Once my sister had my kids as her WhatsApp profile. I asked her nicely to remove it and she did.
Also whenever my cousins take their pics or videos I always remind them not to send their pics to others or to use on snapchat/ instagram.
The problem is kids are only young once.
These days there is no control over how your image is used. Once it's on the internet the image is out.
Until my kids are old enough to decide they wants their pics on the internet for anyone to see I don't think it is appropriate for their pics to be posted.

Yabu. I don't know a single person in real life, out of hundreds and hundreds, that are bothered by this. Pulling a number out of my arse, I'd say less than 1%. So, I think the onus is on you to make people aware as it's more unusual. If I got messaged every time someone wanted to post a photo online of my dc, I'd think it was a complete waste of my time responding

You're right to be upset as your wishes as parent should be respected. I do post pictures of my kids but I wouldn't dare of anyone else's, its not my choice.

I don't think you are being unreasonable. I'm still annoyed at ex sister in law for announcing my sons birth on Facebook while I was still being sewn up and had not even told my own family. Some people are just thoughtless. I don't post photos of other people's kids.

I find it really weird she'd even put a photo of your child up.

@arethereanyleftatall

Yabu. I don't know a single person in real life, out of hundreds and hundreds, that are bothered by this. Pulling a number out of my arse, I'd say less than 1%. So, I think the onus is on you to make people aware as it's more unusual. If I got messaged every time someone wanted to post a photo online of my dc, I'd think it was a complete waste of my time responding

Luckily you have never lived a life where your children can't be on social media for a variety of reasons then.

Your children must be very popular to be needed to be posted that often by other people.

I'm not saying that's the case with OP, btw , but your post is offensive. Whether it's 1 percent or not doesn't make their feelings less valid.

Bizarre to post a picture of a cousin's child anyway.