To think this person was being rude about my kid

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I've been beating myself over this. Not sure why. I guess trust issues. I've had issues with this cousin in the past so I may be second guessing for nothing.
I have a two year old and this cousin stated that my daughter was 'so cheeky' to my dd not once but at least four times. For the same reason. She reached out for some biscuits that was left on the dining table. The tone was like 'she did a naughty' rather than 'isn't she a cheeky one'.

The couple have a two year old themselves and have been known to be the kind to constantly be boastful about how 'progressive' they are but in reality it's quite the opposite and also always showing off about what great parents they are and how shit everyone else is.

The same person then said it again when they came over the last time. I just didn't like the tone. I just wanted to know.. am I being too sensitive or should I say something next time. I know il see them post lockdown and it will bother me. I just don't know if I should just ignore it.

It must have happened weeks ago! They won’t have a clue what you are talking about!

I would find it very hard to bite my tongue in these situations! A 2 year old doesn't really have a concept of "naughty" behaviour! Why can't we just let 2 year olds be 2 year olds!

Ignore it. It's less than nothing.

If you're going to hyper analyse everything people say about your child, you're going to drive yourself nuts over the next 20 years or more.

Calling 2-year-olds cheeky is pretty universal. It's said with affection 99.99% of the time.

Agreed - they won't have a clue what you're talking about. If you can't move on from something as trivial as this, what are you like when something actually happens!

No I meant if they say something like this again or I notice something i don't like. I wouldn't talk about what already happened because it's so trivial.

@saraclara

Ignore it. It's less than nothing.

If you're going to hyper analyse everything people say about your child, you're going to drive yourself nuts over the next 20 years or more.

Calling 2-year-olds cheeky is pretty universal. It's said with affection 99.99% of the time.

Lol. I needed to hear this! The most part of me feels like it's just me being over protective. But a small part of me feels like I know this person is being a twat (comparing kids etc). Ignore ignore ignore.

Did you correct your daughter & redirect her to not take the biscuits? It sounds more like the comment was aimed at you letting her grab the item on the table & not saying “no, we don’t take things off the table” or something. It sounds like you didn’t do or say anything & this person commented that it was cheeky to remind you to actively parent ?

A 2 year old grabbing things off the table is to be expected. What’s not to be expected is the parent to not address it because “2 year olds will be 2 year olds”.

@Beepbopadooda

I would find it very hard to bite my tongue in these situations! A 2 year old doesn't really have a concept of "naughty" behaviour! Why can't we just let 2 year olds be 2 year olds!

Ahh you must be the parent of the little darlings running screaming around the supermarket each week.

@Sinful8 yes am thinking along the same lines.

The child’s behaviour wasn’t the issue

The mother sitting back serenely & not teaching the child not to touch is the issue.

Just a simple Reminder to the little one & push the bullies away & the comment would likely have been averted, I feel.

Had the OP done that, feel it would have been included in the post.

Your cousin is competitive bless her. I'd pull her leg about it the next time. In a way she won't do it again without thinking first.
Don't let it go unnoticed but don't fall out about either.

Whose house/biscuit were they?

There’s nothing worse than a 2 year old who is behaving in a way that would be unacceptable at any other age and the parent laughing it off as cute because they’re a 2 year old, and then when they’re 3, 4, 5, the same parent wondering why they’re still doing it.

This is how brats become brats.

I’m guessing it’s less a case of her thinking the 2 year old is naughty and more her thinking that you’re one of those parents.

@AlternativePerspective

There’s nothing worse than a 2 year old who is behaving in a way that would be unacceptable at any other age and the parent laughing it off as cute because they’re a 2 year old, and then when they’re 3, 4, 5, the same parent wondering why they’re still doing it.

This is how brats become brats.

I’m guessing it’s less a case of her thinking the 2 year old is naughty and more her thinking that you’re one of those parents.

No I'm not one of THOSE parents thank you very much. I wasn't in the room at the time. She's two and I tell her off when she's not supposed to do something.