To feel like this

[Lupoo]

Im turning 33 in a few days and its really hitting me.

I dont feel like ive achieved anything.

Ive been a single parent up until now (in a 2 year relationship thats getting serious now) ive had basic administrative jobs. Not been great with money, so i dont have anything of substance behind me.

I want more for my life but I'm also thinking, well I'm 33 and haven't done anything this far. So do i accept my life or is there time to try and turn it around?

There's well enough time to turn it around. I did a BA in my early 40's, I wasn't the eldest on the Course, or on placement.

Start to plan out your 50's now, because it does eventually become too late.

@Lupoo you're still very young! I felt like you in my early 30s. I was a single parent to two lovely DDs having left school unqualified and split from a violent partner when DD2 was small. I did an access course then a degree, and then moved hundreds of miles for a completely new start. You're not being unreasonable, you're feelings are understandable. But there really is plenty of time for you to make your life into what you want it to be. Also, being a parent is a big achievement. I didn't see it that way early on, but now that my DDs are out and in the world I can see that it was. You might have to take a few chances, but get planning and there's plenty of time to change things.

You've birthed and raised at least one child. That's an achievement surely?

Go easy on yourself. A lot of people don't "achieve" anything incredible (otherwise it wouldn't be so prized!) If you're kind, decent and reasonably happy you're ahead of the game.

Never too late to do something you're passionate about, or to make a solid financial plan for the future. But don't buy the lie that we all have to be "exceptional". It's ok to just be enough.

You're not just a mum. You are your child's world. Have a plan take small steps towards your goals. It's not too late