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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to think life is so bloody boring? Are you all happy?

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LittleGoldfish · 29/10/2007 20:24

I don't know about you guys but I am getting bored waking up in the morning knowing everday is going to be the same old boring tedious shit. The problem is I really can't afford to re-train in another career, I am bored being at home with the kids all day trying to entertain them.

I am sooooooooooooo bored.

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dissle · 29/10/2007 20:26

What would you really LURVE to do the fishy?
if you could do any thing at all, what would it be?

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LittleGoldfish · 29/10/2007 20:28

I don't know tbh. All I know is I am so bloody bored out of my little tiny brain .

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kd73 · 29/10/2007 20:32

Littlefish... understand completely.

My life is and appears pointless.

I go to work everyday, come home, have tea, sleep and on we go....

Everyone elses life appears to be moving on... except mine.

Friends are getting married, moving house and having babies

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LittleGoldfish · 29/10/2007 20:33

Glad its not just me then?

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kd73 · 29/10/2007 20:34

Not at all!!!!

I think I got the wrong life!!

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LittleGoldfish · 29/10/2007 20:35

Whats up with you kd73? Why do you feel like I do?

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boo64 · 29/10/2007 20:36

Little gold - I can relate to what you're saying - I am working part time now but if I weren't I'd go crazy! Even now I get a bit bored sometimes.

I think there are a couple of strategies to go with:

always have something in the diary to look forward to - something that makes you feel good e.g. girls night out, spa treatment, whatever
more you time me thinks from the sounds of it if at all possible. Read a damn good book even if you only get 5 mins a day before bedtime.
do a course (some are really cheap) even if it isn't going to be a career change thing. Even if it is a correspondence course so you needn't pay for childcare and have to do it at home once the kids are in bed, it will exercise your brain

Oh and Scrabulous and similar help exercise my brain too!!

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LittleGoldfish · 29/10/2007 20:39

Thanks boo64. I agree with all that you posted.

I don't have many friends as I am very shy but I do have a night to look forward to in November. The only one I might add.

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ShinyHappyPurpleSeveredHeads · 29/10/2007 20:42

I am not happy. I am very stressed. But I'm never bored. Bored to me sounds like a luxury.. but please don't think I'm belittling how anyone else feels; it's just how I perceive it/how it seems to me.

WasherChainSaurusMassacre · 29/10/2007 20:54

I'm not happy with my lot either . I am fed up with being skint and having to ask DH for 'housekeeping' money (none for myself), am fed up of cleaning the house to no effect, and am fed up of the same routine day in day out.

I am definitely not bored though, in fact am considering returning to work p/t for a rest

I will never tire of the smiles I get from my 2 boys though.

boo64 · 29/10/2007 21:36

Oh and always always remember that things might be boring and humdrum (I know what you mean by boring - it's the routine being the same every day like it's groundhog day!) but some forms of excitement are not good...I'd rather go with boring than bad but interesting

SqueakyBroomstickBrushes · 29/10/2007 21:53

god yes, the worst thing is wishing to god i had someone interesting (ok interesting and over 19 months old) to talk to. dp should in theory provide some mental stimulation but is a zombie after a day at work.

LucifersLuckyUnderpants · 29/10/2007 21:53

YABU because there are many people in this world who live awful terrible sad lives through no fault of their own, who are living in war zones, poverty, have terminal illnesses, homeless, alone, abused or some other terrible existance. Being bored is a luxury some cannot afford, you only get one shot on this earth and only you can make the best of your life, so if your bored do something to change it.

Hows that for a reality check

kd73 · 29/10/2007 22:14

If only it was so easy...

I want children desperately and am bored of waiting and watching everyone else

dee24 · 29/10/2007 22:16

My god! I assume your not a shy person then luckypants?

Life can be very dull and boring and it is hard. After 8 months at home I had to get a job and it's bloody boring as well lol! I used to be very shy and it was horrible, when you feel like that it's very hard to get out of it. I used to sit in silence in the company of new people and they used to think I hated them and was weird Thankfully I have got better over the years.

Why don't you join a mother/toddler group? Easy way to meet people and the focus will be on your baby rather than you which might make it easier at first?

Also, do you get working tax credit? If you do then you may well get tuition fees waived (I do) and also free childcare.

LucifersLuckyUnderpants · 29/10/2007 22:26

im a very shy person actually, also been a single mum for the past 14 years and struggled on benefits when my xp first left us, i had no education, and had never worked so was a little shell shocked to say the least. But i count my blessings for everything i have got because there are far worse off than me.
I didnt mean to sound harsh in my last post, sometimes you need to step outside and put things into perspective, im not saying im never bored with my life either, but its not very often as there is always something that needs doing in our house, and life can get a big like 'groundhog day' which is when you then need to take a step sideways and evaluate what you have and what you can change it for the better, its not always easy i know, but if you dont do it for yourself, who else will?

BadZelda · 29/10/2007 22:27

Actually LittleGoldfish I feel like I know exactly where you're coming from. I felt really depressed about the whole thing this afternoon...the endless cycle of laundry, cleaning, cooking, feeding (am at home on mat leave with 4 MO and toddler). I really want to be enjoying this time with them but it feels like all the mundane chores get in the way, and I feel guilty about being bored by my lovely daughters and secretly looking forward to going back to work part-time in january. I know exactly what you mean, LucifersLuckyUnderpants about a sense of perspective (though not quite sure I would have phrased it as brusquely as that) but at the same time I can't help feeling it's not why I had kids! Really tempted to try and find a home help to do all the domestic shit, though we can't really afford it. I guess by choosing to breastfeed / not having got toddler into a nursery by now / etc I'm not exactly making life easier for myself. I guess I just try and keep in mind the fact that I'm trying to do the best by them, and it will get easier. Just need to focus on trying to enjoy them now, but mondays are always the hardest for some reason.

FrightOwl · 29/10/2007 22:40

i dont think being bored is a luxury.

mostly im so bored i could scream.

im bored of working with nothing to show for it. with my house not being as clean and tidy as i want it. im bored of being knackered 24/7. im bored of coming home every night with no partner. im bored of being nothing and going nowhere. im bored of having this same life for the last 9 years nearly.

i am bored of struggling through the same old shit and nothing ever changing.

i am busy most of the time and if im not doing something its because i haven't the energy..but no matter how busy i am, i am still bored.

i know things could be so much worse, im not ungrateful but you cant help what you feel.

LucifersLuckyUnderpants · 29/10/2007 22:59

Ive been where you are Frightowl, and its not easy, i made my fair share of mistakes in life but i turned it around because i was unhappy, my advice to those who are stuck in a rut, go back to school and learn something new your never to old. But i do know where your coming from. If you're bored with life you don't get up every morning with a burning desire to do things. I was just trying to be positive to the op, instead of posting something depressing about how my life once was.

Maggieb52 · 29/10/2007 23:12

the thing is - even the most interesting thing in the world (if repetitive) can get very boring. Travelling, shopping, clubbing (not that I can remember that one!!)

FrightOwl · 29/10/2007 23:32

lucifer, i wasnt trying to be depressing..(sorry )

i did all those things you suggested a long time ago and it worked out well.

im happy, but im still bored...that was perhaps what i was trying to say?

happiness and boredom combined..there's an interesting thought.

HotFlush · 30/10/2007 10:31

I'm not sure "bored" is the right term - I think "fed-up" is more to the point. Yes, I am fed up with my life at the moment for all the reasons listed by FrightOwl and more, but I don't have time to be bored
Sometimes you just need a bit of time out to re-evaluate your life and think about what you can do to change things.

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