To feel slightly left out at work

[prisingh]

I always see on FB and things that my small team of work colleagues have met up with each other and not invited me.

AIBU to feel slightly left out by this?

They're all really nice people so it's not like they're a spiteful clique of bullies or anything like that. I think they must just not particularly like me that much :/

I know you're not supposed to let things like this get to you so maybe IABU.

I would feel the same about this as well. There is a little bit of this that goes on where I work . I’m a lot older than most of them so don’t feel the need to get involved really . Could you maybe suggest doing something with them as a team ? I know it’s a bit tough at the moment but maybe a teams catch up or just a quick call for a catch up . Try not to take it personally as this horrid situation we are in does make you feel a big insecure and start doubting things . A girl at work who I thought wasn’t keen on me has started calling me each week to check I’m ok as I was finding the working from home thing a bit tough. So sometimes it’s not them it’s us .

Sorry bit insecure not big . Grrr autospell

It depends do you make lots of effort with them? Have you suggested meet ups?
How long have they worked together?

I always keep work and friendship separate so it wouldn’t bother me as I wouldn’t actively seek to be part of the group. If you want to be part of it and are lots making of effort and they are planning things without you YANBU
If they’ve worked together for a long time and have always done this yabu

Difficult not to feel left out I guess. However, my two colleagues used to do this to me and at first I felt a bit miffed. However, after a while I realised that they were pretty much each other’s only friends. One of them would even go to the pub or to gigs by herself if the other wasn’t available. Me, on the other hand, had a husband, kids, mum, sister (plus her associated family) and friends who lived locally. I guess they assumed I didn’t need an invite. Maybe it’s the same for you?