Who is being unreasonable here?

[sundaysgirls]

Dp has just been out for his weekend walk with one of his mates, fine as it's his only social life and he's been working all week, he can't work from home. However today's my birthday, still not a problem him going for a walk as it's a regular Saturday arrangement and we obviously aren't going out anywhere.

He came back without a birthday card because 'the shops had none that were suitable' we don't exchange gifts so only ever get each other a card

None that were suitable ? Any chuffing card would have done

We don’t really do cards so I guess it depends on will he be planning and arranging a nice meal for you tonight?

The only shop I pass on my walk contains only cards that are very old fashioned gushy shite that would make my husband 🤨

But, either of us would come back with a bar of chocolate laughing, “omg they were so bad!” or have bought one in advance.

That was pretty shit of him, and I would assume he was lying and hadn’t even looked in the shop 🤷🏻‍♀️

I don't think you're being unreasonable. It's harder in lockdown to do anything, but I would be hurt if DP didn't make any effort to do anything. Have you said anything to him about how you feel?

So he could have got some flowers or a cake or a chocolate bar or something? Did he do anything to mark your birthday?

@parietal

So he could have got some flowers or a cake or a chocolate bar or something? Did he do anything to mark your birthday?

He said happy birthday and made me a cup of tea this morning, no idea about dinner but it'll be something out of the cupboards as we are broke until pay day, not too broke for a card though.

It's a bit rubbish to not observe a birthday ritual you both have IMO. He could have got a card before today. He should still go find one ,(better late than never) Lots of supermarkets have decent card sections these days, so that's v poor form . Happy Birthday OP.

That’s shit. Don’t do anything for his birthday, or you will set a pattern that you celebrate his but he doesn’t celebrate yours. Tell him you’re hurt.

He's had 364 days to get a card and there's always Amazon , other online stores are available

Happy birthday op 💐🎂

That’s quite rubbish!
Happy birthday op 🍰

Will you be getting your birthday bonk ? That’s the important pressie 😉

@DinosaurDiana

Will you be getting your birthday bonk ? That’s the important pressie 😉

No thanks ! I'd rather have a cup of tea 😁

LTB

Happy Birthday 🎂 🥳🎉

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Yanbu he needs to get his act together, it's the same date and he should have realised

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Happy birthday OP.

Yes that is shit, he could have got you a cupcake and candle or some chocolate or whatever.

Tell him you expect better. Don’t debate - it doesn’t matter whether he does or not - you do.

I had similar with DS last week when it was his birthday. I've only gone to our local Tesco for months, so was going to get a card from there - except the shop manager removed the card display three days before because cards are 'non-essential' items. It was too late to order a card online, so I dug around in the stationary drawer and found a 'with deepest sympathy' bereavement card I was keeping for emergencies.

To make up for it, I made him a birthday stocking full of sweets and tat from Tesco instead. He loved the card more though YANBU
Hope your birthday was not entirely awful

There are such things as thortful and moonpig. I started using them because during first lockdown I only food shopped one place as I felt it was operating in a very covid responsible manner and they never replenished the cards, which were limited selection to begin with. I’d only found out about the cards as my DH gave me one from thortful.

So YANBU for feeling he’s unreasonable. Also, you don’t exchange gifts but what about making you your favourite meal or treating you to your favourite take away or a special one?

Hope your birthday was not entirely awful

I think retailers must have removed cards in a lot of shops as I didn't get a card in the post from my DM or DDs, I'll give DP the benefit of believing that. I've ordered a box of birthday cards now so I don't get caught out in the same way.

If the thing you do is cards that’s really shit. I’ve ordered cards from Scribbler to be delivered and I’d that’s your one birthday thing he’s been shit.

Happy birthday OP. Where I live there are still plenty of cards in all the supermarkets, newsagents, WH Smith’s - it’s only the actual card shops that are shut.
I’ve been able to send a card to every single friend and relative that’s had a birthday since March last year. All the friends/relatives that I usually exchange gifts with have had gifts and they have been wrapped.

He maybe didn’t want to go elsewhere incase the Covid police swooped on him for buying a ‘non-essential’ item.