Turning into a frump

[Andrea87]

I haven’t been to the hairdresser since March, haven’t shaved the legs, put on make up 2 x since then and deodorant 3 x. Slob around in tracksuits apart from the odd walk and these feet haven’t seen attractive shoes 👠 for many moons.
DH doesn’t seem to mind, in fact he likes my longer hair now.
I have regular showers though and am obsessive about hand washing so hygiene isn’t a problem.
Am i unreasonable to think it’s ok to live like this for an entire year or should I start to make an effort at least for zoom calls?

It’s entirely what makes you happy. Do you feel good like that? If yes and you love the comfy feeling - go for it! Or do you feel down about yourself - if so then make an effort and see if you feel better. You don’t have to conform to looking ‘attractive’ or wear make up - unless you’re doing it for you.

I found getting dressed properly made me feel more productive in the day.

I guess it depends how it’s making you feel. If you feel slobby and down then I guess it’s time to make changes?
For my work teams calls no one cares whether you have a T-shirt, jumper or short on so it just doesn’t matter.
I realised I feel better in actual jeans and whilst I’ve not worn make up in months I sometimes use perfume in the house just because it makes me feel better.
If you’re fine with tracksuits and not shaving (nothing personally against not shaving) then stay as you are.

I agree with the others. If you're happy in your temporary frumpdom then that's ok (plenty of us there with you right now!). If it's making you unhappy then shave your legs and put on some lippy. There's no right answer other than what doesn't depress you.

Depends if you're happy with it or just stuck in a rut?
I always feel better in lockdown when i've made a bit of an effort even when wearing lounge wear i.e. washed and dried my hair, moisturised, perhaps done my nails if they're looking grubby. Not stuff I do for other people but it makes ME feel better.
Same with indoor clothing, trying to buy nicer quality stuff instead of crappy cheap bobbly tracksuits. really makes me feel a bit less 'meh'.

Do what feels right for you. I love my hairy legs it makes me feel liberated.

I try to make the effort for work simply because it puts me in the right frame of mind. I did a week of not getting dressed til my 10am cuppa and I noticed how unproductive I felt.

We got dressed up for Christmas Dinner, fancy shoes and everything. I felt amazing despite it just being me, DH, DD, my dad and sister. DH and I are re-introducing our date nights and we will be making an effort, even just a change of top and a quick flick of eyeliner.

If you are happy with how you are then I see no reason to stop. But if it's bothering you then start with work calls, noone is probably going to notice but if you feel better then that's all that matters.

you are clean and tidy, although deodorant is a good idea.

men don't have to smear red and black paint on, wear uncomfortable impractical shoes or shave body parts. Welcome to a world of less time wasting.

I would definitely start wearing the deodorant again as you can get BO without it despite showering.

The other things, well it's up to you if you want to make an effort or not?

Personally I work in a hospital part time with some attractive men, so although I wear tunic & trousers I always wear eye make up (the rest is hidden by mask & visors!).
Out of work I make an effort too mainly because I'm single and might run into a man I know in Tesco or something...

I think that if you're in an LTR and your partner is happy with your looks & you're happy then that's ok..

Thanks, I may put on make up tonight then and some Lippy and see if DH actually notices ! Might be a bit of a shock to him.
Might have a date night then - with candles and all.
Have a good weekend everyone.

I put some red lippy on after this thread....not been anywhere but just made me feel a bit happier.

If it works for you and you are happy then go for it!

I can go a few days feeling slobby then I need to get dressed properly, do my hair and maybe put on a bit of makeup as it just makes me feel better.

As long as you are showering regular then there is no need to put on fancy clothes or do makeup if you don't want to!

Meh, I feel like I should make more effort, but nothing fits and I can’t be bothered. Plus I quite like being comfortable nowadays. Although I would always do hair and make-up and pop a smart top on (with my leggings/jogging bottoms obviously) for Zoom/Teams calls.

If you’re happy and comfortable then just keep doing whatever helps you to stay that way. I wouldn’t feel like myself if I didn’t dress reasonably smartly, do something tidy with my hair and put a a bit of makeup on just as if I was going to the office, even though I’m working from my living room; so I do all that and credit it in part for having maintained excellent mental health and well-being this year. Keeping my life as similar as possible to how I’d intentionally built it before has made the year much better.

I thought the title said turning into Trump so it could be worse!