34 weeks pregnant! Any advice?

[Duemarch2021]

Hi, just a lighthearted thread for a chat about pregnancy and becoming a mum really! So im 34 weeks with first baby- terrified of giving birth! .. live in a tiny 1 bed flat and not feeling too great mentally at the mo - i am talking to mental health team so am ok.... DP gets up really early for work and not sure how were going to do it! .. just wanted some advice really and a hand hold.. got really bad aches in leg and hip joints at night so wake every hour its horrible! .. worried about covid at hospital and having a traumatic birth... trying to do a degree too!

Congrats on your pregnancy @Duemarch2021! Sorry you’re not feeling great. I would suggest asking Mumsnet to move this on to the pregnancy board as AIBU may not get you the chat you want x

Okay so I can kinda help with some of it, husband got covid a few weeks ago and I was 36 weeks pregnant and I've been okay so hopefully if you do come in contact with it, it should hopefully be mild so try not to worry too much.

I'm also doing a degree so speak to your tutors about getting a study plan in place to help with your workload, it really does help and I've only needed one extension and have managed to get decent grades so far so it's definitely doable.

Sleeping babies need noise, DP should get some leave so make as much noise as you can around sleeping baby like hoovering etc and hopefully the noise of DPs alarm won't wake baby up although can't say the same for baby not waking DP up, that's part of the package I'm afraid.

Sorry to say the pains and aches get worse, the none sleeping gets worse and you'll pee every five minutes

Birth is scary for everyone I think even for those who've done it before but you get to meet your little bubba at the end of it all so worth it.

And you're doing everything right by speaking to mental health team, you've got this mama, remember that xx

Thank you ❤

Ok well get prepared now. (both mine born before 35 wks.) Be prepared to put you degeree aside. Sleeping through wasn,t to about 4 years weith my two. But they slept during the day for a bit. Baby wear, this def helped my babies. You will find what works for you and that won,t be the same as your mum, bf, cousin whoever.

@Duemarch2021 you're me but 6 months later! Or rather, I was you 6 months ago. Small one bed flat, DP up for work at 6.30, not home until 6/7pm, and suffering from awful pelvic girdle pain. For what it's worth, the birth was fine (not straightforward, and on paper looks awful and ended up with EMCS but the midwives were great and it didn't feel traumatic at all!), neither of us caught Covid, and baby didn't care that the flat was tiny ;) We are going to move soon but it really hasn't been that bad- sleeps in our room, got a baby bjorn bouncer and a babyzen yo-yo buggy as they both fold away really neatly and don't take up too much space.

By the time I recovered from the c section my hips had recovered too! I genuinely was in less pain 1 week post birth than I was in the 6 weeks leading up to the birth. Also, baby is super fucking cute and worth it all. Good luck xxx