To feel annoyed the school bully is so 'popular'

[PurpleAndOrangeAndBlue]

I went onto facebook recently and noticed a girl who tormented me for a period of time in high school posting pics which were being 'liked' by hundreds.

Now I don't mind or care what others do, I really don't. I don't really use facebook and am a bit of a luddite in terms of keeping my life off social media, but every now and again my curiousity gets the better of me and I end up going on to see if anyone has sent a message on the messenger and it's at that point I end up going on facebook.

Back at highschool in the 90's I had a group of friends, we were not the super cool ones, just went with the flow, but I was a bit of an easy target for certain things as I had a very uncool image, developed late etc. However I was a fairly happy-go-lucky spirit back then. I also had well-off parents which was a bit of an uncomfortable thing at my school and somehow word used to get around about certain things. My lack of confidence in physical looks bothered me back then (I bloomed late and now happy, so no jealousy from me on that front). This girl used to mock loudly/ be sarcastic towards me whenever she was in the vicinity, even ripped my new jacket sleeve (fastening type thing) "by accident" - that type of thing. She was a very overt bully and singled me out for her quite vicious and personal digs. Even about my background (won't go into details). I was absolutely wary of being anywhere near this girl!

Anyway I've let things go in life - women can be jealous and I like to think that karma always gets around.

However her name popped up as liking an a friends photo and I ended up clicking on her profile. It's weird - we're almost 40 but her photos are in the style of a 20 year old instagram poser with all the make up, filters, crop tops etc. And I was shocked that she actually has thousands of 'friends' - each pouting photo gets hundreds of likes.

I'm within arms reach for her to just say a simple "I'm sorry" - why can't she do that?

I have personally apologised to people I have hurt in the past, it just helped me to move on with the guilt of how I had made that person feel (in early adulthood). But I've never been so vicious to anyone as she was to me, and yet she seems to be lauded. I feel like shouting to the world what she used to be like - jealous, hateful and insecure.

I guess this was a bit of a rant. It feels so unjust. Don't get me wrong - I know people change and we all have to find our way in life. And many things happened in life since then, which some would say make this pale in comparison. But why not try to right the wrongs?

How many of those "hundreds" really know her, they may be aquentences, people who know her family, work colleagues. And anyway in my experience bullies often were popular.

I would be feeling sorry for someone of any age posting pouty photos for likes!

Who cares how many likes she has, she's probably still the same horrible ugly person inside, insecure and constantly trying to fill the black hole of social status.

She sounds a bit insecure, needing all that affirmation, you're probably in a better place

True. Thanks. And yes it goes with the territory I guess. Think sometimes it's hard to move on from things when reminded of it - am better 'off' social media.

I'm within arms reach for her to just say a simple "I'm sorry" - why can't she do that?

Previous threads about bullying on here have usually had victims saying they don't want an apology from the bully, it would all about the bully making themselves feel better, reopening old wounds etc.

But yes, it's annoying when arseholes don't get their comeuppance.

Get off social media OP

I don't think those are real friends.

As someone said on another thread, sometimes bad things happen to good people and good things happen to bad people. But, comfort yourself with knowing that generally, people are horrible to other people because they aren't happy themselves.

Yeah. Maybe just takes a longer time 😂

Thankyou yes. You're right.

She has 'friends'. They aren't people who actually know her or would have her back if something bad happened in her life. They are the type to go 'if you need me, call' and yet would never answer.

She has a fake perfect life. And it sounds like she's never grown up, she's still stuck in her youth. She probably has self esteem issues, most bullies do.

Pity her. She's probably deep down quite sad.

Have you posted this before?

A bully from my school started an anti bullying charity and wrote a book about it. He now works globally and has done quite well out of it.

The world is unjust and fucked up. That a man who mocked obese people, disabled people and people less intelligent than him can have the nerve to create an anti bullying charity without ever giving a whiff of an apology for his behavior still pisses me off to this day.

Nope, this is actually my first ever post

@CakeRequired

She has 'friends'. They aren't people who actually know her or would have her back if something bad happened in her life. They are the type to go 'if you need me, call' and yet would never answer.

She has a fake perfect life. And it sounds like she's never grown up, she's still stuck in her youth. She probably has self esteem issues, most bullies do.

Pity her. She's probably deep down quite sad.

True! It helps to hear this.

@CastyNunt

A bully from my school started an anti bullying charity and wrote a book about it. He now works globally and has done quite well out of it.

The world is unjust and fucked up. That a man who mocked obese people, disabled people and people less intelligent than him can have the nerve to create an anti bullying charity without ever giving a whiff of an apology for his behavior still pisses me off to this day.

Wow, just wow. This is what I mean. Is it an act? It's messed up for sure. I can totally understand why you feel pissed off. That just takes the biscuit. The absolute delusion of these people.

Is she MLM 'hun' type?

I'm going to go offline now but thanks for your replies. Will check back tomorrow, had no idea it was so late. If anyone wants to share their equally irksome similar stories please do. It's some slight retribution.

Don't judge anyone or anything by social media profiles.

That way madness lies.

@MichelleScarn

Is she MLM 'hun' type?

Actually could well be. I think a few people from school went down that route at some point.

True @HarryElephante, so true.

Honestly if she's posting photos like she is still twenty, then she's obviously a bit pathetic... I mean twenty year olds look ridiculous doing that shit, let alone people twice their age!

@LooseMooseHoose

Honestly if she's posting photos like she is still twenty, then she's obviously a bit pathetic... I mean twenty year olds look ridiculous doing that shit, let alone people twice their age!

This.

It's not much different from an MLM. The vast majority of the bully's "friends" will be bots.

Hahahaha. Karma clearly has come round. She used to be able to undermine you because of your lack of confidence and now she's a woman who hasn't the confidence to post a genuine picture of herself on social media and who clearly needs daily ego massaging because she's so fragile. By contrast you've bloomed. Karma's a bitch!