to be bothered that DH has put a ban on sex cos I'm 6 months prg
cantgetcomfy · 29/10/2007 13:01
I'm 27 wks and had a conversation with DH at the weekend about how he is slightly uncomfortable with the idea of sex now that the baby is getting bigger. Its not the logistics of it with me its more about the baby. This is DC2 and although things definately slowed with DS1 there was no out and out ban. Said this to DH and he said he felt the same first time round but didn't want to say . Feel slightly put out by this - I don't have a high drive at the moment but not sure I want a complete ban for the next however many months!
screamsprout · 29/10/2007 13:06
I think his decision isn't an informed one. There is no risk to the baby so it's just a case of him not feeling right with it, in which case he should be willing to talk about it. It's not easy being preg and an outright rejection of your body really doesn't help!
I am 26w and I wish that someone could suggest to dh that he doesn't want sex, but that's another story!!
cantgetcomfy · 29/10/2007 13:12
He knows there is no risk to the baby and keeps stressing that its a purely about how he feels about it. To give him his due he is being very affectionate at the moment with loads of cuddles and kisses and is showering me with compliments to over compensate the no sex i think. We have talked it over and if it was the other way around I would want him to take my feelings about it into consideration so I feel that i have to at least show some understanding but its just another how many months without any sex ...........
becklespookle · 29/10/2007 13:15
Am 31 weeks and although DH hasn't put a ban on sex he may as well have done! I keep reminding him he should make the most of it as I certainly won't feel like it afterwards for a while! I do feel a bit put out that he is not really getting the urge to 'do it' but that is probably more to do with feeling like a blimp and wanting reassurance more than a particularly high drive on my part at the moment!
sKerryMum · 29/10/2007 13:21
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FrankAwenstein · 29/10/2007 13:22
hi scorpio. I am 31 weeks and we had relations yesterday for first time pretty much since knowing preg. Dont think we will again as had a slight bleed.
The idea of baby didnt bother him at all as was 'spoons' position and not showing from behind.
Really good to see you btw. How is it all going? Cant beleive you are 16 weeks already. Time has completely flown.
FrankAwenstein · 29/10/2007 13:33
It has stopped (ended up being chacked on labour ward, highly embarrassing except they had a lady in earlier who had similar due to vibrator , quite how she managed the logistics i have no idea).
Have you had any scans yet? My last one was last monday and he was already 3 1/2 lbs Bet your dc are very excited about baby
cantgetcomfy · 29/10/2007 14:40
Think part of the problem is because I've got SPD this time as well. When I asked DH what was different about last time I was preganant and this time he said that the SPD was playing a part in it as well!!
Becklespookle - think I'll take your advise!! He'll think all his Christmas' have came at once if he gets a BJ
becklespookle · 29/10/2007 14:53
SPD is a bad excuse Cantgetcomfy! I have it this time too and although it makes it uncomfy for me I can't see how it affects him! Some men are just funny about pg bellies - my DH gets completely freaked out by it all. He hasn't even felt baby kick (or wanted to ), just keeps saying he can't wait until I am me again .
Saying that - a surprise BJ does do wonders!
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