Sex - AIBU to be annoyed

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(Sorry if this posted twice i couldnt see the first)

Bf has been "joking" about me shaving my legs etc, the worst it gets is stubble, never more than 3 days worth. This eve he basically said before my shower not to forget to shave, cheeky f-er but anyway i took that as... fun time is on tonight. So i did.

I was up early this morn so 9:30pm ish i say shall we go up, he says yes give me 5 and i will be up, hour later i finally go down to see if hes fallen asleep which he had.

Bearing in mind i was shattered but stayed awake thinking he would be coming up any min. Instagram made the time go quicker but ntp.

AIBU to be annoyed?

Also sex has become allll about him, he doesnt make an effort and you can forget me coming close to finishing. Im worried it will cause resentment.

Its not a subject i am confident about discussing either.

P.S I'm now wide awake as im angry and he is snoring away! When i couldve been asleep from 9:30pm! arghhh

I mean he just sounds so horrible. He really does!!! I would try and move on to someone who treats you with respect.

I do get that's easier to type but I've been married for 14 years and never once has my husband expected me to shave my legs before he will bring himself to have sex with me!!

You need to go on shaving strike. Don’t be doing that shit for anyone other than yourself. Tell him he needs to exfoliate and you’re helping him along.

You also need to start making demands of him sexually. When I was younger I didn’t do that and it left me frustrated and disillusioned. Find your voice and if you’re not confident with this man to speak out perhaps he’s not the right one.

I was going to say that you just need to sort out this:

"Its not a subject i am confident about discussing either."

and the rest will be fine, but then I saw your second post and really, it sounds like the whole thing is a bit of a mess. I don't know if he's not that in to you or not. It's certainly a possibility, but it's not a given. But it sounds like he just doesn't treat you well and you don't feel like you're special to him at all. And if that's the case, there's really no point being with him. (Still sort out the not being able to talk about sex, though, unless it's just him that makes it difficult).

Life is too short to stay with someone who doesn't consider your needs in bed or anywhere else for that matter.

I am sorry you have wasted time on this person. Please think about yourself and your happiness.

He's confident enough to tell you what to do with your body to sexually please him. And to give reminders too.

You should be confident to tell him what to do with his and if he cares about your sexual pleasure and not just his own, he'd be asking you!

Making comments about how hot other women are too?

You deserve better and the cynic in me wonders if he is actively trying to damage your confidence so he doesn't have to be a decent sexual partner and just focus on his own orgasm.

Does he watch a lot of porn by any chance? It seems to be a common factor on threads like this lately.

@TheOneLeggedJockey

OP - you can’t have expected anyone to tell you YWBU, surely!

Oh God. The usual handmaidens will probably be along soon to tell you to move, on, forget about, and just do whatever it takes to keep Your Man. 😬

When does this happen on here? Nobody except a few button pushers would say that.

Anyway op, sounds awful. Get a new one

Also sex has become allll about him, he doesnt make an effort and you can forget me coming close to finishing. Im worried it will cause resentment.

It sounds like it already has.

OP, I think you need to ask him to do a back, sack and crack wax. Then fall asleep. Just desserts and all that.

Remind him that your body is not for him to comment on negatively and if you want to grow out your leg hair until you can plait it then it’s absolutely no business of his!

Don’t put up with such a substandard relationship. He comments on other women, he never compliments you, he doesn’t even make you cum, you can do so much better