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Is this odd

56 replies

Clappingforjoy · 20/01/2021 22:40

Well not at the moment because of covid.
Do you think it would be weird for me and my ds aged 20 to go on holiday together. Honest opinions pls.
He isnt a mommy's boy or anything and has plenty mates and goes on holiday with them etc.
There is just one trip me and him fancy doing.

OP posts:
Poppingnostopping · 20/01/2021 23:19

My friend is a single mum and always holidays with her now adult son. I go with my daughters, if they are keen and you go somewhere that will please everyone, it's definitely a good thing to do.

Feelingconfused2020 · 20/01/2021 23:19

Really hope my DS wants to holiday with me when he's 20. My brother had been with my mum as an adult. Let's hope.you get to do it soon!

Iloveyazz · 20/01/2021 23:20

I'd love that opportunity for myself and my son, it sounds precious and fun! What a brilliant way to make memories. Have a great time!

Milkshake7489 · 20/01/2021 23:20

Why on earth would that be odd?

Go and have a lovely time!

Doggybiccys · 20/01/2021 23:23

I went to Asia with my DS when he was 21 and we had a ball. I went out first for work then he joined me. First time he’d flown alone. DH couldn’t get the time off and DD didn’t fancy it / want to leave her boyfriend. Go for it!

noblegreenk · 20/01/2021 23:27

Not odd at all OP, go for it! Although one word of warning - when my dad was 60 (and recently widowed after my Mum passed away) I thought it'd be nice to take him away for a overseas city break, just us two. Everyone we met assumed we were a couple! It was so cringey, especially because there's a 30 year age gap.

thatonesmine · 20/01/2021 23:29

I've been on holiday with my adult son a few times, just me and him. DH has no interest in going abroad any more (used to travel a lot with work) so DS and I go together. Problem solved. We've had some great trips and they're a lot more fun without a whinging husband.

Original poster
Clappingforjoy · 20/01/2021 23:39

Awww thanks so much

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Givemeabreak88 · 20/01/2021 23:41

Why would it be odd? My mum and brother went on holiday together (though he is older)

8obbingabout · 20/01/2021 23:45

Not wired at all. I think thats lovely

BackforGood · 20/01/2021 23:47

Not at all weird.
DS and I did this when he was 21.
DH hates lying in the sun, I love it, ds loves it, and he was more than happy to have a free holiday out of me, and I enjoyed his company.
Win win.

PastMyBestBeforeDate · 20/01/2021 23:51

In my 40s my mum and I went somewhere she'd always wanted to go. My dad wasn't well enough to go so I did it for him.
We had fun and it was special.

junebirthdaygirl · 21/01/2021 00:02

My ds 20 and l did the Normandy beaches together. A trip both of us had always wanted to do. Its brilliant to be on a holiday with someone who has the exact same interest as you.
Go for it!

MonkeyPuddle · 21/01/2021 00:04

Not at all. I go away with my mum each year. I’m 35!

Lalliella · 21/01/2021 00:17

Totally not odd at all. Lovely that you have that sort of relationship with your DS. Go, have a fab time, then come on here to tell us all about it!

FrankButchersDickieBow · 21/01/2021 00:19

It's weird that you might think it's weird!!

Go for it. Have fun. Loads of great times to be remembered (didn't wanna say #makingmemories)

saffire · 21/01/2021 00:20

Do it! My mum wanted to go to India just me and her. She died before we got the chance.

DramaAlpaca · 21/01/2021 00:22

I've been on short breaks with my 20-something sons in the past. We had a great time. Do it and have a great time - when we can, of course.

SleepingStandingUp · 21/01/2021 00:22

@Poppingnostopping

My friend is a single mum and always holidays with her now adult son. I go with my daughters, if they are keen and you go somewhere that will please everyone, it's definitely a good thing to do.
What's sad is that I bet no woman would ask if it was odd to go away with their 20 yr old daughter
HmmSureJan · 21/01/2021 00:25

No. And I have to say it really pains me that grown up sons enjoying their mother's company is seen as weird. Fine for fathers to spend time with their adult sons isn't it? And their daughters for that matter. Mums and daughters fine too but Mums and sons the only relationship that's sneered at or criticised. Really pisses me off. Once COVID lifts my ds and I - he'll be 18 then, and his 15 year old sister are going inter railing together and he's beyond excited about it. He says it's the best holiday idea I have ever come up with. Plan your trip OP and don't give a moments headspace to worrying about it.

Ponoka7 · 21/01/2021 00:25

I go on holiday with my Adult DD's. Most women I know do. It isn't strange because it's a Son and not DD.

SleepingStandingUp · 21/01/2021 00:30

And their daughters for that matter. I can guarantee a Dad on holiday with just his 20 to daughter would raise eyebrows. Not least because everyone will assume it's not his daughter and she'll spend all holiday interjecting the word Dad into every sentence so people will stop judging

HmmSureJan · 21/01/2021 00:33

@SleepingStandingUp

And their daughters for that matter. I can guarantee a Dad on holiday with just his 20 to daughter would raise eyebrows. Not least because everyone will assume it's not his daughter and she'll spend all holiday interjecting the word Dad into every sentence so people will stop judging
Grin I guess so.
SleepingStandingUp · 21/01/2021 00:35

Trust me Hmm, it was a long holiday.

MiddlesexGirl · 21/01/2021 00:36

Totally fine. I've done it with my daughter. Why not with a son?

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