To wonder how some men always land on their feet?

[LemonSherbetFancies]

I've known men who are serial cheats, arrogant and selfish, but somehow, they always land on their feet. You know the kind-

1. Adoring wife/partner
2. Lots of money in the bank
3. Great high earning job
4. Lots of holidays and great social life
5. No remorse as to what they have done as they have confidence in spades and are always right.

Just me or do we all know a man like this?

Yes my ex was one.
Until I pulled the rug from under him. It's all gone tits up. His new younger (gold digger) woman has left as he didn't get what they thought he would, I took my very generous share and met my dp very soon after we broke up and his relationship with his dc is forever damaged because of his poor behaviour, most of our friends took my side only one couple still see him.
Now he plays the victim... rather him than me.

@ReallySpicyCurry Personality of a tea towel haha I'm going to use that one! Sounds like you're better off without him

There are plenty of men like this but I e known so women who are just as bad

I have known and worked with men like this - it is definitely a thing. One smarmy git who was constantly womanizing. I was involved with him doing some volunteering and charity work. He robbed us blind and blamed me for the lost money.

He got found out, ostracized by all our friends - and despite having been gifted a flat by his dad (so no rent/mortgage costs) and still ended up bankrupt and losing his flat.

Sometimes their behavior catches up with them.

Barry, we could be talking about the same person.
Despite his womanising and arrogance, he somehow makes himself the victim and seems to have a fantastic life, enabled by his doting girlfriend.

My exh just seems to fall up.

Abusive twat who I had to leave with the kids - no problem! Get another, younger partner, with a better job than mine, and get her up the duff instead.

Get sacked from your well paid job? - no problem! Have six months off on full pay - so plenty of time to find the new partner - before starting another, on almost as good pay as before but much nicer! Don’t do anything much for the kids during your six months off but be sure to have a couple of hokidays.

Don’t manage to fleece you ex wife as much as you’d hoped in the divorce (still fleeced though) - no problem! Get a massive bonus straight afterwards that you never mentioned but brings you right back up there.

Personality of a tea towel just made me think Matt Hancock tbh!

@Narniacalling

Karma does not exist. It’s survival of the fittest and all they have done is work out how to survive better than you or your friend. That’s all.

I dont believe in Karma either. Good things happen to shitty people.

My ex is like this.
Could fall in a bucket of shit and come out smelling of roses.
Has been sacked from almost every job he's had, finds new ones within weeks or days.
Has cheated in every relationship, crap dad including completly abandoning one of his kids.
Now married to the ow with two new very young kids.
His looks are fading badly now not that he was ever anything special.

It usually catches up with them when they're older. But we also need to teach young women to expect more from their relationships.

Personally, I married a man who was emotionally and borderline physically abusive, who expected me to do everything at home while I also outearned him about 3 times. I would probably have forgiven an affair too. Wtf was I thinking???!!! The lightbulb moment fortunately came right before my 30th birthday and I have fixed the situation. I was just a people pleaser and also a bit vain - I wanted the apparently perfect relationship to work, i didn't want to tell people I fucked up, and there was a certain security in the status quo.

Sounds like my husband. I will leave one day. I think he will eventually end up one of the sad older ones, as he will never change. It's a pity it took me so long to realise.

Yep,my cousin is one .
Seasonal cock lodger who leaves when the cash runs out,gets sacked from management jobs over fraudlent expenses,stealing stuff to sell at car boots - yet never got arrested as he knows the firms do not want the hassle .I am sure his luck will run out thou,20 plus jobs within 10 years must ring alarm bells to someone.He has already lost his taxi license years ago over some crash for cash scam and narrowly escaped thailand jail over importing fake designer stuff.
So there is hope that the shite will catch up one day .

I hope it does end up catching up with them in the future. It is depressing to see how common it is

@CookEatRepeat

Women too.

But this is MN and everything is the fault of men, women are never guilty of anything.

People who only care about themselves tend to do better for themselves because they dont waste time and resources on other people.

Yep. My ex fiancé is one. Like Teflon - nothing ever bloody sticks.

Cheated on me and ran off with someone else 6 months before our wedding yet his life continued on the same wonderful trajectory whilst I was left picking up the pieces

So sorry burntpinky.

Cheated on me and ran off with someone else 6 months before our wedding yet his life continued on the same wonderful trajectory whilst I was left picking up the pieces
My ex did exactly the same to me.
Wouldnt even call anyone or cancel anything for the wedding unless he could steal the deposits.
Off he went to his new life, all organised behind my back whilst living in my house and lying to my face, including swearing on his child's life there was nobody else.
He moved in to a new house with her less than a week after I chucked him out.
He's married to her now.
Lost so many jobs including for stealing, good jobs, he didnt need the money just cannot help himself where a scam is involved.
I very much doubt he has changed.

OP, it happens precisely due to what you call arrogance and other people call confidence. It happens not only to men but women as well..
It is a special skill/talent to convince others that you are a catch. I certainly saw women like that. Serial cheaters, big salaries etc

@LemonSherbetFancies - oh I feel like sending him a quiche or something now - saved me from a fate worse than death and THANK GOD he didn’t become the father of my kids!

That's the spirit burntpinky.
You are too good for him by far x