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[AriesTheRam]

Just when you think you have heard it all.Good friend has separated from H but they are still living together due to covid,I've posted about them before.Hes financially abusive and she hasn't got her own money she has to go cap in hand to him still.
He's been pestering her to sleep with him for a while "one last time" and she's always told him to fuck off.Today this Prince upon men has offered her £4000 to have sex with him,this is the same man who pleads poverty (self employed) It's highly insulting to her and he's clearly got a screw loose !

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Tell her to call Women's Aid, and leave ASAP.
He's been giving her money as she has none
, what if he decides that he's already bought sex, seeing as he thinks he can?

I'd do it.

£4000 to add to my escape fund? Definitely.

@Cuntitinthebin she said she wouldn't do it for £100,000 never mind 4! He makes her skin crawl

He's never give her the money anyway!

I know so as if he'll do it for sex.Its just a power trip.

Wow, how do you think she'd feel if she knew you were gossiping about her to strangers on the internet?

Some friend you are...

Not sure its one of those 'ho ho ho Id do it' situations tbh. The womans being abused.

@bookshop1 that's not the case at all! I'm venting to strangers that I cant believe he's propositioned her like this.If she was/is on mn she'd be interested to see other people's opinions . Please don't be offended on a strangers behalf.

Why doesn't she tell him to give her the money upfront, tell him it will be on the weekend, make a big song and dance about a meal and setting the mood etc, then take the money and run? 4k should set her up as a deposit.

It’s illegal, it’s forcing someone into prostitution.

@bookshop1

Wow, how do you think she'd feel if she knew you were gossiping about her to strangers on the internet?

Some friend you are...

I agree. If I confided this in a friend I’d be so upset that she then posted it on MN.

Even the tone of your post OP is gossipy. You're no friend. Jeez. Watch out everyone, tight mouth Larry's about.

This is all a bit grim.

Firstly, his behaviour? Utterly vile. I doubt he'd give her the money even if she did. Seems like the sort of thing that he'd turn around after and laugh at her, for. Horrid man.

Secondly, your post? You aren't asking for advice. You sound like you just want a gossip with a glass of wine in one hand and Mumsnet in the other. If you were asking about ways to help her, fair enough. However, it seems like you've heard about him being a dick, decided "hahahah omg let's go tell Mumsnet and have a good laugh about it", so skipped happily to your computer to post. It's not nice on your "friend" (I imagine if she knew you were posting about her personal life she'd be mortified and upset) and it just screams attention seeking (you, that is).

Grow up. If you want to be a good friend, support her and provide her with resources to leave and get on her feet. Don't come on Mumsnet and chat about her behind her back.

You really lack class and should feel ashamed. Awful 'friend' behaviour.

Also, just saw your update. If your friend is curious of the general consensus, let her post her own thread. This isn't your story to tell.

Secondly, why are you needing to vent? You hardly care that much about her or you'd instantly realise that posting this sort of shit is horrid to do to someone.

If your life is that boring you need to hijack your 'friend's' suffering, then that's just grim.

@BooBahBoo

Also, just saw your update. If your friend is curious of the general consensus, let her post her own thread. This isn't your story to tell.

Secondly, why are you needing to vent? You hardly care that much about her or you'd instantly realise that posting this sort of shit is horrid to do to someone.

If your life is that boring you need to hijack your 'friend's' suffering, then that's just grim.

This, there is like 16 million members of mumsnet. You’re acting like a twelve year old gossiping.

Loads of people make threads about others on here.Im really worried about my friend.I haven't told anyone in rl about this.Try and pile on all you like saying it's gossipy.I won't be acknowledging further comments like that.

And ive never laughed about it at all

Then ask a question op. Like “how do I help her” not “just when I thought I’d heard it all” and then just a statement like passing on gossip.

He's revolting OP. Would she consider refuge accommodation?

It's the way it's written. All excited and giddy. Couldn't wait to spill the tea could you?

He is revolting, but so are you, writing this on mumsnet is nasty and not how you should behave towards a friend.
I would have more tact and kindness towards my friend and i would not discuss it on mumsnet.