To send back stuff I dont need to ex's Mum

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I'm pregnant with my first DS as mentioned before in another post and my ex's Mum has sent me pushchair, baby clothes and other stuff I dont need. This woman was rude and a huge twat to me (pardon my language) when I was with her Son for four years straight and now all of a sudden she wants to be my best friend.

My brain is too tired to deal with her crap and I've stewed over her motives all day long. She's not made any move for six months to come to scans or appointments even though I've offered plenty of chances, she thinks baby is a girl and the doctors are wrong about the Gender, all the clothes I've got from her are pink.

Would I be unreasonable to send it all back with a "No thank you" note. I was given lots of lovely gender neutral clothes and second hand crib and pram by neighbours, all in good condition and I bought some myself too.

Im sorry if I'm not making sense, it's almost 1 AM and I'm staring at all these clothes around me whilst fuming

As an aside OP make sure you have it in writing that your ex wants nothing to do with your son. Make sure he is NOT on the birth certificate (meaning he has no legal rights to your son) and that you go after him for Child Support (he doesn't need his name on the certificate to be forced to pay up by the courts).

The last thing you want is a legal battle with these arseholes and if his name isn't on there he has zero rights - except the legal obligation to pay support to his biological child.

Agree with @SuperlativeScrubs - take screenshots of any text/Whatsapp messages etc and save them. You need to keep the audit trail.

Also, don't disclose to your Ex's Mum that you have sold the items she sent - it's none of her business now. If you do keep and use anything she gave, be careful about what you post on social media (eg photos of the items in use) - otherwise that will start up another conversation (in her mind) that you have accepted things and are being ungrateful.

Best of luck with your baby boy

I would now block her. Really she could insist you're having a giraffe, it doesn't change the fact that you're having a baby boy. She has said she doesn't want a relationship, fine. No more information.

If you ex doesn't want anything to with his child then you can take all suggestions with a pinch of salt. He doesn't get naming rights. What a pair of arses.

I hope all goes well for you OP.