To think he could have got up with dd?

[handelswe]

This lockdown I’m staying with my daughters dad, his dad and his stepmum. So her dad can help and get to know daughter and so I can have some help as I struggled a lot being alone with dd in the first lockdown

He has been helping but dd has been getting up earlier the past week at about 5:30-6 and yesterday I was exhausted so he said he’d get up with her today as it’s my birthday and so I’d be able to have a lie In.

Anyway dd woke up at about 6 and I went to tell him dd was up but he seemed like he wasn’t going to get up as he kept saying what and he asked me what the time was and he just turned over but he said he’d get up in a few minutes. In the end I told him to forget it and I just got up with her. And when he finally got up at half 10 he told me he was tired and he isn’t a morning person but if I waited he would’ve got up with dd. And he said he got up earlier than usual so I can’t complain (he usually gets up at 11 but yesterday he didn’t get up until about half 12 and that was only when dd wanted him so her grandad took her to get him up!!)

Aibu to think he could’ve got up with her today? Would you have expected him to?

Yes I agree with his dad. Today he took dd into his room and he said he was going to put some cartoons on for her but when I woke up they both had gone back to sleep (which I was shocked about as dd doesn’t normally go back to sleep) and when dd woke up again he made her breakfast but then he went back to bed.

@handelswe

Yes I agree with his dad. Today he took dd into his room and he said he was going to put some cartoons on for her but when I woke up they both had gone back to sleep (which I was shocked about as dd doesn’t normally go back to sleep) and when dd woke up again he made her breakfast but then he went back to bed.

These are all minor semantics OP. Focuses on the wrong area.

Are you happy? Safe?

And if you agree with his dad, do you not believe he has depression?

If he’s a good dad otherwise I would worry about his routine and him having no job.

Are you not together? Why are you not staying in your own house OP.

@Notmoreuodates5

If he’s a good dad otherwise I would worry about his routine and him having no job.

Are you not together? Why are you not staying in your own house OP.

OP is young with no family to speak of and was asked to move in to help DP readjust as form a relationship with DD after leaving prison with her and his family's support.

He's not being great but at least he is getting to build a relationship with DD and credit to you for that

It must also be nice for DD to spend more time with her grandparents?

Your ex has an awful lot of growing up to do, thank goodness she has you.