Neighbour's ex-partner.

[sammytj]

Hi, looking for some help please...my neighbour's ex-partner visits 3/4 times a day and bangs the gate every single time. They are both unpredictable therefore don't want to approach. Has anybody had similar and what did you do? Thanks 😊

What could anyone do? There's nothing to be done unless he becomes abusive. Just concentrate on your own affairs.

Remove the gate?

Ignore him?

I would tell him to stop doing it. But then I've had enough of inconsiderate people. They do it because they think they are more important than everyone else. Nah

Thanks for getting back to me. He's not very approachable and is very arrogant to boot. If only I could remove the gate!!

are they arguing when he's there ?do they have dc he's visiting ?

Is he slamming this gate or hammering on it? If it's the former, you could put a spring on it or something. If the latter, drive a few nails through from the inside.

Having experienced a nightmare neighbour who delighted in doing everything in his power to be difficult, I'd encourage you to try to ignore it. You shouldn't have to, but some people are just such arses that if you ask them to do X they'll spend the rest of their days deliberately doing Y, just to piss you of

Is there anything you could do to soften the bang of the gate? A spring as pp suggested or some foam , I don’t know ,Google? But I wouldn’t approach the guy , it could escalate 🍀

He’s just coming and banging on the gate?!

I hate people who make a noise just to disturb their neighbours. If it is shared gate can you make some change to make it less annoying.

Thanks for all your messages, much appreciated. It's hard to ignore when he's banging it as much as he is - none of my other neighbour's visitors bang gates, just him! Unfortunately it's not a shared gate. I'm concerned about the noise, also it must be causing damage to my wall? It's when he is opening and closing the gate. They don't argue very often so not done out of frustration. Thanks again 😊

Do you mean he's letting it slam shut?

It sounds like he's coming through the gate and either letting it bang against a surface or letting it bang shut. Is this right?

If I am right then I really can't understand what you're getting worked up about. Yes it's inconsiderate and annoying but tbh there's really nothing you can do about it. It isn't your gate and it's just the noise that's upsetting you. You'll just have to get used to it. Have you only just noticed it because you're home more?

Ok the gate or put a pad on it to reduce the sound

tighten the screws when they are out or just jemmy the gate off.....:-)

I don’t think this is going to get you a starring role on Neighbours From Hell, I’m afraid.

So your neighbour's ex visit four times a day (which implies he's not an 'ex'). But slamming the gate? What's the issue? Does he slam it multiple times? Are you afraid he's going to break the gate? What time does this happen? I obviously don't understand the issue because honestly I don't see how a gate slamming four times a day needs any rectification.

If it's not a shared gate then how could it be doing damage to your wall OP? Is it more like he is letting it swing open/shut rather than slamming it?

It might be annoying to hear it, but I'm not sure you've got grounds to raise it with them.

I mean, really? This is such a non-issue.