To be totally bloody obsessed with finding the 'right name' for DD2?

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OK so setting aside this is the firstest worldest problem in the world for a minute... please?...

I'm just 37 weeks, starting to feel like baby will be born soon, and STILL don't really love the name DP and I have provisionally chosen for second daughter.

The main problem is my first daughter has a bloody EXCELLENT name though I say so myself - quirky but simple, cute but dignified, unusual but not stupid to spell/pronounce. I bloody love it, people constantly remark on what a good name it is, totally suits her.

Other issue is DP has ruled out all names ending in a certain vowel, because his surname begins with same vowel and he thinks saying the two together sounds clunky (I think this is rubbish myself).

Getting worried now that baby will come, we'll go with 'least disliked name' because she needs one and I'll always be slightly annoyed I didn't love it as much as my other daughter's!

OK so assuming a huge raft of 'DON'T YOU HAVE ANYTHING MORE IMPORTANT TO WORRY ABOUT?!' has already been laid on me... AIBU? :P

You know you have to tell us the name. Ada seems popular atm.

What’s your first DD’s name? And what is the letter you can’t use? Maybe people can make some suggestions here for you.

Of course yanbu...you need to head to the baby names board!

At least tell us one of the names

Lots of Ada's, Ava's and Eve's around.

This is one reason why I only have one dog. Once you've given someone the best name in the world its tricky to come up with another.

Is there a good name ending with the surname vowel that DH has vetoed? If so can you pretend you will have a double barrel first name just to get your own way? You are the one growing the baby after all.

So if its eg Maisie Eden then make it Maisie-Jean Eden and only ever call her Maisie?

Have you gone on the baby names websites, you can put in names and it comes out with similar, you could try the names ending in the rogue vowel to see what it comes up with

I felt the same and ended up being pressured into a decision and chose the wrong one and it honestly took me about 18 months - 2 years after she was born to get over it. It was only when her personality began to really shine through that I felt she started suiting her name.

I wish I'd referred to the baby as that name even before the birth as it sounded pretty in my head and written down but it doesnt sound as nice when people actually say it especially in the local accent where I currently live

What's the vowel it mustn't end with?

When she arrives, over a couple of days something will jump out at you. We had two equally great names lined up, and didn't think we'd be able to choose. In the event, almost immediately one of them felt right and the other was not. Didn't even make the running for D.C.2!

This is my issue with all boy names! I never loved any of them. I found girls names much easier but there’s so many to pick from.

Definitely up some baby name suggestions. I love Lyra, Sophie & Ella

Love Ada...it's beautiful.

I remember when my third DD was born the name we picked just wasn't her name and we named her one we both said no to. Can you tell us the forbidden vowel?

Lyra is becoming so popular. I know 8 of them now!!

Elsie is nice but not that popular.

Just go with Corona?

I can see where your partner is coming from. For example, Ava Allen turns it into AverAllen and doesn't sound as nice. If it's a different vowel it might not matter so much.
Have you thought of using word names?

Three girls here - I feel your pain! It’s sooo hard! But with DDs 2 and 3, we had a shortlist of 5 and then had a look at them when they were born and decided then. Our top names didn’t feel right for either of them. We loved the name Stella but it’s awful with the girls’s surname.
Tbh it was something nice to think about in hospital. My only regret is that we didn’t give Dd3 a more creative middle name. We should have had a separate shortlist for middle names.

Have you thought of using word names?
What are word names??
I dont think I understand

Names like...Brick?

and STILL don't really love the name DP and I have provisionally chosen for second daughter.

This is not with the zeitgeist, I know.... but why do you have to “love” it? I think it should be a much more driven by head than heart. Your child is going to be the one who has to live with it, day in day out. So - does it go with the surname? Does it have any embarrassing connotations? Do the initials spell something rude? Will it suit a 45 year old as much as a 4 year old? Will people be able to spell it?

If you’ve covered all the bases, you should feel confident in your decision and, as you get to know your daughter, that name will become “her”.

(FWIW, I didn’t get my first choice of name as DH vetoed it. I was telling my DD (now 10) about it the other day; she was horrified and thought my choice was awful and said she much preferred the name she had, which was a bit of a compromise between DH and me. So I felt better about it!)

We had the name sorted out for DS1 as soon as we knew we're having a boy at around 15weeks. We called him that name all through the pregnancy. Within hours of him being born we gave him a name that hadn't been on any of our lists, it just suited him, and still does.

You should have this moved to the baby names board, say what the sibling name is, the vowel to be avoided and you will get 100+ personalised suggestions. Name change if you must.

YANBU to find it tough choosing, but sorry to be miserable but I don't really know what the point of this thread with such scant information in AIBU is to be honest.

Give her your surname instead?

Wow amazed no-one is kicking me I should probably go to the names board as suggested though... And yes name change because the sibling name is so identifying!

I like Eden though and hadn't thought of that one, so this thread was not in vain!

Good suggestions from some, thank you!

Wish I had given DD one my surname now ... Can't bring myself to give them both different surnames when they have the same parents, just asking for weird questions at school ... But should have held out for my surname, it's much more sensible. Ah well.

I swear I have looked at every girl's name in the world though. Nameberry probably my most used website of 2020! 😬

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Names like...Brick?

Funny 😆