Aibu asking for photos to be deleted?

[Malbals]

I had asked a family member to send me photos of my dc as a baby as we had lost our camera and unfortunately only had a few print out (this is from six years ago before we got any decent phone cameras)
I had asked a few times in the past years
Now eventually the family member has sent some however I feel upset as there’s some of dc just been born and getting weighed checked by dr etc and my problem is all naked plus one in bath all very new born photos that I know of, now I’m guessing it must have been dh took them and sent on old phone to this person , however I have since then said no naked photos of our dc and definitely never to share , he says he can’t remember and agrees he must have, however agrees to my wishes of never taking or sending I think my own personal history is perhaps a reason ,I feel so strongly and upset by this. I just don’t see how anyone needs a naked photo of my dc and worry what happened if it got lost and onto the wrong hand even though it’s from years ago, I still feel anxious about this and upset! So aibu? Is it my clouded thoughts and past that make this seem more worse than it is? Shall I ask they be deleted even though , i won’t be able to check and expect that I’ll be lied to? I don’t think they are sinister people having the pictures ,but I don’t know who they share photos with! Like if they have ever shown to others which I’d say was 100 percent likely due to the nature of this person and what if they ever got stolen?
Thoughts??

Who is it?

If it's someone like your MIL I would not be bothered (if they are generally a trustworthy person), some random cousin twice removed then yeah I wouldn't have sent them.

I think you are overreacting. Those pictures are particularly special as they were the moments surrounding your child being born.
I would imagine that they have been kept for this reason.
I also don't think people share pictures of their child/grandchild as a baby so are not likely to be scrolling through their photos showing strangers naked pics. If they were to be showing off, they would show a recent pic. I think you are right to have said no to any naked pics over the years, but these particular ones, I would let lie.

I don’t think anybody would be interested in pictures of a kid just being born! Those aren’t going to get into any ‘wrong hands’

I understand your concern and it's importance and support you to the hilt going forward. Asking someone to delete existing photos though, I'm less sure. Knowing they were taken with integrity, and are being kept out of love, I don't think I would.

I'd tell them naked photos aren't acceptable any more, and that you'd be happier if they'd never been sent. I'd suggest they don't show them to anyone and never share them. I don't think I'd ask they delete them, partly because they may not comply, and partly because there's something quite loaded about deleting a photo of someone. I wouldn't want to delete a photo of someone I loved, no matter what was wrong with it.

Nobody is interested in your newborns photos trust me. Apart from who loves said newborn. You're overreacting OP and it's reasonable to think, since this is the first you knew of it then they haven't been shared far and wide.

Reasonable for no naked photos as they grow, but people don't do that anyway usually.

I’m assuming this family member is your DH side of the family. Start off by asking your DH if he sent them or gave the old phone just because you are wondering how this person has them.

Your husband took some newborn photos of his child and sent them to his mum.

You're overreacting and also being rather unfair to make your dh feel bad about it - it's his child too. It's not like he splashed them all over sm.

I think bringing this up with someone kind enough to send you photos when you lost the camera would be unnecessarily rude. You are the one careless enough to lose your camera - they haven’t done anything wrong. Your husband sent them the photos. Focus on important things.

Thank goodness they held onto the photos so you have a copy now.

They really won’t be sharing six year old photos of a just born baby with anyone now.

I agree with your stance moving forward, but I think you’re over reacting here. You’re worried about them getting stolen?? What now? Thieves don’t generally take the family albums when they raid a house, and phones that are six years old aren’t high on the desirable tech list either.
Stolen from where? You lost a camera with all the images on a data chip; are you really anxious and strongly upset about that?

Babies are naked when they are born. And people take photos at this time because we instinctively want to capture these moments.

You and your husband may enjoy looking at these photos. Nobody else is going to want to.

Whoever has these photos isn't now going to show them to anyone else.

'Have you any photos of Malbal's boy? He must be at school now?'

Yes he is but here is a photo of him on the day he was born'

I'd ask your dh about the phone and see if you can find where the photos came from.

This is absolutely an overreaction. An understandable one as you have had something happen to you in your own past. Be cautious with your own dc by all means but be careful with the feelings of other family members too.

My DP sent photos of our DC once she’d been born it was a c section so the surgeon was holding her up he told my DP off (jokingly) ‘come on get your phone out make sure I’m in the photo’
I understand why you wouldn’t do it now as DC is older but I think your overreacting a little.