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To ask you to help me formulate a plan to get out of my abusive marriage?

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Fr3shStart · 17/01/2021 17:20

I do not have an issue playing the long game in order to ensure I end up leaving in the best possible position. I have been married for 5 years and we have a 6 month old. Our house was purchased prior to marriage in cash given to me by my parents as an early inheritance and is in my name. We have no other major assets. Cash in the bank accounts amounts to less than £100k and I would hope to have it split 50/50? I do not work and haven't done so since being married due to mental health reasons (all stemming from this dysfunctional marriage I believe).

I aim to get myself a job before I file, but is there anything I can do that would work in my favour to ensure my child spends the majority of time with me rather than a 50/50 arrangement? I am not doing this to spite my husband, but more so because I feel it is not in the best interests of my child to spend significant time with my husband due to his abusive nature.

I would also like for me and my child to live in a city about 30 minutes away from where we currently live. If I attempt to make this move after I have filed, will it be forbidden? Or is it best to make this move now and then file?

If there is anything I have missed I would greatly appreciate your input. Thanks

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nanbread · 17/01/2021 17:25

Sorry you're going through this. Personally I would contact a shit hot lawyer who definitely knows what they're doing than rely on info on here, which is sometimes out of date or incorrect. And do lots of research yourself.

RandomMess · 17/01/2021 17:35

Not working and splitting ASAP is most likely to work in your favour from what you have described so yes get a SHL as soon as possible.

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