Not sure if an AIBU but I feel here is a good place to vent and get a variety of opinions and hopefully, some advice.
I constantly feel I am having to justify myself, especially to my mum family.
For instance, I am early thirties, married but no children. Out of choice, at the moment, we are wanting a couple more holidays etc as a couple before we have a child. My mum is always talking behind my back to my SIL's and other members of the family, telling them " Frosty is never having children", "I don't think she will ever have kids". I find this out because the people she's said this to tell me. Whenever the topic of babies comes up (at the moment a lot of people seem to be getting pregnant!) I always feel I have to justify my choices, reassuring her I am indeed planning but not trying yet, to keep her happy.
Also, and I'm sorry to bring it up, she makes me feel guilty surrounding my choices regarding covid/lockdown. Myself and DH are following guidelines, only leaving the house for shopping or work. My mum tells me she is at my SIL's house again for tea, then the next day SIL is over at mum's. She then makes me feel guilty as I havent visited her (I keep saying I'll meet her for a walk, but she never seems interested), asking me "what are your other friends doing? Are they seeing people?" I try to explain that I am trying to follow guidelines so I am not part of the problem, and she'll just answer with a "Hmm" and gets all sulky.
Sorry for the rant, but I need to know if anyone else is in this sort of situation and how do you handle it?
I'm probably being massively oversensitive but it's bugging me so much! I'm very close to my mum but I am getting really sick of this now.