Ex gave me Covid and now isn’t even isolating?

[Slothsays]

So my ex brought our baby back earlier in the week, he said he didn’t feel too good when he was at my house but didn’t mention he had a test. I spoke to him the next day he said yes he had a test and I came back positive. I have now caught if off him obviously. I’ve told him I’m so so ill and I can’t look after the baby properly. He obviously couldn’t do anything because he would need public transport to get here. And we don’t even get on that well for him to be here for the remaining isolation days

I’ve just spoken to him today and he’s out at a shop buying takeaway? I can’t believe the selfishness, not just about leaving me in the lurch with our baby but at knowingly going out and about. I’m so so angry

Report his non-self isolation to the police.

Report him.

Yep report him.

Report him. Hope you feel better soon. He clearly doesn't give a shit about the health of his own child. What a rubbish dad.

I feel like I’m being sensitive and I know he will accuse me of trying to lure him here but surely you should want to help out???

I'd report him. He could kill someone.

Are you angry because he is not at yours? Or angry because he is not self isolating? If it's the latter, report him - he's an idiot obviously.

If it's the former, report him but keep that anger outside of the report.

I’m angry because obviously he could kill someone it’s so selfish. But there is underlying anger that he thought it fit to leave the house to buy food but not to come and help me with our baby

I also can't work out whether you are angry that he is not self-isolating or angry that he won't come to yours and help with the baby.

He shouldn't be doing either of those things.

No he obviously shouldn’t be leaving his house to do anything. I just am annoyed that in his head it’s okay to break the rules to go get food and potentially kill someone. But even in his head it’s not okay to come and help with our baby.

Not that I wanted him to do either of these things

I'd report him! Absolute idiot, sounds like the sort of knobish thing my ex would do

Report. He won’t know it was you.

Yes I’d report but really you should do handovers outside as socialising indoors isn’t allowed for the exact reason of it creates a situation for transmission.

He certainly shouldn’t be coming back over.

It does read as if you are more upset he is not helping you out than him actually being out

I understand why that would annoy you when you’re feeling terrible and it’s just fault. Even though you obviously know he can’t come over, I can see why it would anger you. I’d still report him though. Sounds like a total arse hat.

Why arent you reporting him OP? You are criticising him (rightly) for going out endangering peoples lives on purpose, but not reporting him to the police because it bothers you more that he's going out for selfish reasons, not ones that would help you out? . Get some perspective and report him, he's a disgrace.

Has your child had a test? Is that perhaps how it has been passed on? Handovers should be done in a socially distanced way anyway, minimising physical contact.

I hope you feel better soon OP but I wouldn't concern myself with what goes on in the head of a man who is happy to be out very potentially ruining and ending the lives of others and their families because he's a moronic little prat. Focus on getting better, reporting him and keeping him away if he can't follow rules of basic safety that concern his own child.

I have reported him I suppose I’m just disappointed. I’m not saying I would but I were to break the rules it would be to take care of my baby. The fact that he was so blasé about popping out for food but not coming to take care of his kid upset me that’s all

So you would have been fine with him breaking the rules if It was
To help you? Honestly you need to find other support, friends / family? Expecting your ex to move in with you even for a few day’s is a big ask.

Is his isolation over? It's 10 days so if he first had symptoms over 10 days ago he can go out.
My ex gave me and my son Covid too so I understand how angry you are but it is possible he is no longer isolating.

His isolation is nowhere near over. We seem to get on well enough every other time so wouldn’t I expect him to look after our baby when I’m too sick? Transport issues aside?

You said in your op you don't get on that well. Regardless, if he has tested positive he can't come and look after your baby, he has to isolate for 10 days from his first symptoms. I asked track and trace if my ex could move back as we were all positive, the answer was no.