To think DS school should handle this better !

[Whattheactual20201]

DS has just turned 14. He recently last year came out as gay. He is loved and accepted by all around him.
Just before Xmas holidays I found messages from his classmates ( 2 particular boys )
Example of only a few of the messages.
“ dirty h*, all these year in the changing rooms and now I know you been eyeing up my c**.

“If I see you look my way when I’m getting dressed I’m going to cut your “D* off “

You get the idea !!
Anyway there has been many more, DS says his fine and he doesn’t care.
I contacted the school, and very little has been done. They said they would speak to the parents but that is it.

I would ask them what their bullying policy is and take it from there. I wouldn't be happy with their response thus far!

What are you expecting them when the children aren’t even in school? There would have been very little they could do right before the Christmas holidays, assuming that’s when you brought it to their attention.

It was Before the Xmas holidays before that had broken up.
So yes they could of done something.
Or they could have still seen school is open address the issue again now.

I think you need to involve parents & police tbh - it would be different if it was being said on school premises (so for example changing for PE).

I think you then make school aware so maybe DS can change elsewhere?

I don't think it's the job of the school to deal with comments made outside of school time. It's up to you as parents to deal with it.

Screen shot etc as evidence. I would hope most parents if shown this would speak to their child.

Can he block the little shits? Or, mute them/ hide them?
As a parent, if I was told my ds had sent messages like that, I would beyond livid with him...

@converseandjeans the texts were in school time.
Ds also confirms that they things verbally to him to and that he started changing else where etc.

I contacted the school, and very little has been done. They said they would speak to the parents but that is it.

Have the texts stopped since then?

I would go to the police.

@Howshouldibehave I have changed DC number and made him block them etc
( screen shot previous messages )

If happening in school, they should be protecting him. Other boys should be changing elsewhere, sanctions etc.
In normal times I would want a meeting.

Police. Those messages could constitute a hate crime.

If messages continuing, I would still inform school.
Screen shots and blocking good start. Hopefully, they will get bored..
Revolting behaviour.

whattheactual in which case yes it needs to be dealt with. I would however still contact parents as we're in lockdown again and it's not easy for school to see the pupils involved.

I think you should let both school/parents know that you will inform the police if it happens again. You might see more action that way.

The content of the messages is really nasty and it does count as a threat.

I think it needs to be taken seriously as an adult would not have to tolerate this sort of thing.

Sorry that DS has to deal with this.