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To wonder what all the walkers would usually be doing

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CloseSchoolsProtecttheNHS · 17/01/2021 02:13

I live in a small village near a lovely green open space for walks. I walk every single day and have done since I moved here many years ago. It's always been very quiet - many, many times I've been the only person out and have walked for an hour+ and not seen a soul.

Since Covid - and particularly since the summer - it's been mobbed! I'm dodging people constantly when out walking and although the size of the space means I can keep 2 metres away, I now often have groups of people behind, in front and to the sides of me which makes me a bit uncomfortable. Most are considerate but some are arseholes that want to brush past you so you have to be aware and it's a lot less relaxing. I'm pretty sure that they are local people as it's not a 'day out' place or anywhere people would know about let alone go to, and it's nice that more local people are out walking but... why have they all just discovered walking? It's not like it was a closely guarded secret before and we are quite rural. What would they normally be doing (for example today on a Saturday afternoon) that they now can't do that leaves walking as their only option??

(Yes I do kind of wish they'd bugger off and yes IABU for that as I don't own this piece of land! But mostly I'm just really perplexed as to why so many people are now out walking!)

OP posts:
Bookworming · 17/01/2021 15:52

@User158340 you were slagging off everyone, you were saying you are perfect!

Sort your own "social anxiety", walk at dawn and stop complaining about people ducking walking.

Your problems are owned by you, not by other walkers.

You sound massively judgemental and aggressive, I'm not surprised you have "social anxiety" you don't sound very nice at all.

Fembot123 · 17/01/2021 15:54

It didn’t read like that @User158340 but if that is all you meant then fair enough 😊

kungfupannda · 17/01/2021 15:55

@Fizbosshoes

I notice that some people (runners, walkers, dog walkers) almost seem a bit possessive of the area that they always walk (I was here first, type thing) and are annoyed that it's more crowded and now other people are there. Theres literally nothing else to do! Even lazy people who dont like walking will probably force themselves out for a walk because they dont want to be indoors all the time! I run regularly and I know lots of routes away from the more "obvious" parks and footpaths which tend to be busier. But me and DH walked a 5 mile route the other day in country lanes , I've run it multiple times and I never see anyone. Last week we saw probably 12 sets of people walking/cycling. I think it's nice, it means people are exploring their local areas more.
I've noticed people getting stroppy about other people walking in their general vicinity too - but, rather bizarrely, where I live it's the people coming from elsewhere who are getting the hump with local people daring to cross their path while they're walking!

I live in a tiny village less about a mile from the residential edge of a built-up area. The paths in between aren't all that obvious, so until last year we rarely saw anyone else when out walking or running, and when we did see someone, we usually knew them. During the first lockdown, people seemed to be ranging further and making more of an effort to find nice places to walk, so we did start seeing people on our usual routes, although still not all that many - maybe a family and a couple of dogwalkers on an hour-long walk. There are lovely walks round here - woods, streams, accessible fields, amazing views - so I was really pleased to see more people enjoying the area. Most people were considerate, and people smiled and said hello, and sometimes stopped to chat from a distance. It was lovely.

This time round, however, I'm getting increasingly irritated with people coming to the area and then taking umbrage at anyone who dares to come within a hundred yards of them. We always give people as much space as possible, even if it means getting off the path to let them pass, or going back to a passing place if we're on one of the very narrow paths. When I'm out running, I always stop for walkers or give them a very wide berth when I pass, going into mud to do so if necessary. I also warn people well in advance if I'm coming up behind them, and ask politely if I can pass when there is space. I can't remember the time anyone said thank you, or even wasn't openly hostile. It wasn't like this in the first lockdown at all. I've been tutted at, glared at, had people stomp past in clear bad temper when we've just gone out of our way to make space for them. The kids and I have had to squeeze out of the way of other families walking 5 abreast, who then glare at us and make comments about people not giving them space. The other day I was on a run and met a woman on a narrow path, so I went back and waited for her. She was on her phone, and when she passed me, she tutted, and then started complaining to the person on the phone about 'too many people on the paths round here.' I later saw her getting into her car, having clearly driven to the village from elsewhere.

It's very strange. It doesn't seem to cross many people's minds that the people they are getting huffy with might actually live here, and be doing exactly what they should be doing and exercising in their local area. I thought I was being oversensitive until our very easygoing neighbours also commented on it, after someone apparently snapped 'this is the third time we've had to go into single file in about five minutes' at them. Apparently they at least had the grace to look embarrassed when our neighbours pointed out that they actually owned the field they were walking through, and that they were on their way to put a sign up warning walkers that the path is steep and very muddy.

I'm not sure what's changed - whether people are just thoroughly miserable and fed-up and don't have the mental energy to think beyond their own wants and needs, or whether it's people who have been coming here since first lockdown and now feel a sense of ownership over the area. But it's a shame, as I know a lot of other people in the village were equally pleased to see walkers out and about during the last lockdown - almost all of us objected to one person putting up signs telling people not to drive to the village to exercise - and a lot of them are now complaining about similar experiences.

User158340 · 17/01/2021 15:58

@Fembot123

It didn’t read like that *@User158340* but if that is all you meant then fair enough 😊
It was absolutely all I meant, but context can be lost with the written word

I hold my hands up for stupidly reacting to Bookworming's snarky and goady posts. I shouldn't have done that. I won't be getting further embroiled down that rabbit hole.

As you were folks.

Fembot123 · 17/01/2021 15:59

That sounds awful @kungfupanndaand you sound genuinely lovely 😊 I think people are just feeling so much anger at the moment but taking it out on people like that is obviously unacceptable

IrmaFayLear · 17/01/2021 16:09

I think people get a bit annoyed and hyped up whenever anywhere is crowded - at the shops/an airport/theme park. It’s stressful at the best of times, but now I think we’re all on shorter fuses.

What annoys me (in any situation) is bad manners. When no one was out for a walk - or at least very few people - it wasn’t an issue, but I do get riled when people won’t walk in single file . It’s so rude - nay, arrogant - to make others veer off the path or into a muddy ditch/prickly hedge whilst your family blithely carries on four abreast. A few months ago ds and I were driven off the path by a walking group all with poles. They were stomping along like automaton Stormtroopers, and didn’t acknowledge the fact that we had had to spreadeagle in the hedge. Ds actually yelled, “You are all very rude!” but they were oblivious.

QueenoftheAir · 17/01/2021 16:10

whether it's people who have been coming here since first lockdown and now feel a sense of ownership over the area

I think you’re being too kind @kungfupannda

Where I am, I’ve noticed that a proportion of these new walkers have no idea of conventions of the Countryside Code. Gates open, litter, cars parked any which way, and unsuitable footwear for the conditions.

And rude with it.

kungfupannda · 17/01/2021 16:14

@Fembot123

That sounds awful *@kungfupanndaand* you sound genuinely lovely 😊 I think people are just feeling so much anger at the moment but taking it out on people like that is obviously unacceptable
I'm not at all lovely, I'm afraid. I'm getting perilously close to yelling 'GERORFMYLAND!' at the next person who glares at me.

Even though it's not my land!

I could probably get my neighbours' permission to shout it when in their fields - they own several.

GERORFMYBOBANDHAZELSLAND*

*Real names changed to protect the innocent.

Whatever9999 · 17/01/2021 16:15

@LuckyJaney

I think the OP has a point and posters are pretending not to notice.

I agree with the OP.

As a family who love walking and always have, it's quite surprising to me that so many people don't walk usually, and only do so when everything else is shut.

I think that is the point of her post.

And I also get cross when 'new' walkers are ignorant of the countryside code, leave farm gates open even ones with 'sheep - please close gate' - wander off the waymarked paths onto private farm land, and trespass over fields planted with crops.

So there.

And let their newly acquired, or previously never walked in the countryside dogs off the lead to worry livestock (we've had several dog attacks on sheep in the vicinity in the last month) and jump up at people. And let's not forget the walkers that don't know the highway code and stroll along windy, single lane, country roads 3 or 4 abreast and then give you the dirty look because you point out the need to move to one side so they don't get run over.
kungfupannda · 17/01/2021 16:18

@QueenoftheAir

whether it's people who have been coming here since first lockdown and now feel a sense of ownership over the area

I think you’re being too kind @kungfupannda

Where I am, I’ve noticed that a proportion of these new walkers have no idea of conventions of the Countryside Code. Gates open, litter, cars parked any which way, and unsuitable footwear for the conditions.

And rude with it.

We don't have too many problems with people treating the countryside badly. There's one spot where people tend to park inconsiderately - it's close to several paths and people will squeeze their cars in even if it's full, which makes the blind bend next to it very hairy. I did once mention it to a family who'd just parked two cars very badly, and asked them to consider parking a little further along the lane, and was told I didn't own the lane. So I didn't bother mentioning that the farmer was up and down the lane in his tractor constantly at that time, and he wasn't particularly careful about cars sticking out into the road...
Blowingagale · 17/01/2021 16:20

@CaptainMyCaptain

I'm a regular walker too and, yes, there are more people out that usual for all the reasons people have already mentioned. In my area which is semi-rural with some pavement walking, though, people are very good at stepping out of the way or crossing the road. It's a mutual thing I don't just expect them to move because I'm the more regular walker.

Unlike you, I hope more people continue to walk because it's good for their health.

captain as one of the new walkers this is really nice to read. I try to keep a good distance and mutually people will move to the side or cross the road.

I think those who previously walked/ran may have a shock as things won’t just go back. a lot of people including me will mostly l go back to usual activities more will be walking and running. Many will continue wfh at least a few days a week and some people have discovered they were paying a lot to gyms and with some equipment and road running/walking they don’t need it. (Not me, ideally I need some of the machines and a treadmill as less likely to trip.

EveryDayIsADuvetDay · 17/01/2021 16:21

Just think how pissed off the OP would be if people had the temerity to go running or jogging in here naice village. Grin
they might breathe too heavily.

Fembot123 · 17/01/2021 16:21

I’m not lovely, if someone glared or tutted at me I’d shout at them 😂

MusicalTrifleMonkey · 17/01/2021 16:32

I would be walking.

redsquirrelfan · 17/01/2021 16:36

@EveryDayIsADuvetDay

Just think how pissed off the OP would be if people had the temerity to go running or jogging in here naice village. Grin they might breathe too heavily.
Remember the village that put signs up last year telling germ-ridden cyclists to stay out of their village? Even though they were just passing through and not stopping to get a coffee from the local cafe or anything like that? People are bonkers.
redsquirrelfan · 17/01/2021 16:37

@lljkk

In terms of 'busy'.. .once I get to half a mile away from town, the paths are very quiet. Normal quiet. If you live in a village, and can walk at least half an hour in one go, it shouldn't be that hard to get to some quieter areas.
I agree, I went out for a run this morning, and it was busy, but lots of the paths were very wide and empty for large chunks of my run. That was this morning though, I bet it was chocker this afternoon.
redsquirrelfan · 17/01/2021 16:42

what do you think people could or should be doing right now on a Saturday afternoon instead of walking

Visiting the garden centre.

Oh - and angling! That's allowed!

Grin
Nonamesavail · 17/01/2021 16:51

Annoyingly the police cameras were out in force for speeding here in suffolk today but none around to stop big groups gathering down the road...

kungfupannda · 17/01/2021 16:52

Remember the village that put signs up last year telling germ-ridden cyclists to stay out of their village? Even though they were just passing through and not stopping to get a coffee from the local cafe or anything like that? People are bonkers.

I mentioned upthread that someone in our village took it upon themselves to stick signs on a wall, telling people not to drive to the village to go for a walk. There was a Whatsapp discussion among most of the other villagers, and then a couple of the more tactful people were dispatched to tell them that it was a public road, that there really weren't very many people parking there to walk, and that no-one else in the village had an issue with it. I understand there was a fair bit of huffing and puffing, but the signs were taken down, and no-one who parked there was challenged. I think there was probably a lot of unnecessary hanging-around-by-the-wall-on-the-pretext-of-watering-the-garden-while-glaring, mind...

Annoy · 17/01/2021 16:57

@Bookworming

I went out yesterday on my own for a daily walk and there was someone walking the dog which you'd expect. The owner took up the left side of the path, the dog the right side and the lead the entire middle and they were walking slow. The road was busy and the other side of the road was lined up with people, too. It's just a pain.

Oh dear, you poor thing. Isn't it just so irritating when you're so perfect and everyone else is a fool.

I'm not sure how you survive is such a desperate situation with so many fools around you?

🤣🤣🤣🤣
sofiaaaaaa · 17/01/2021 16:58

Well pre-lockdown I was an attractive 22 year old that had a good grad job, a surplus of money and an active social life as a result - I was NEVER at home. I was doing anything but staying at home all day.

It’s certainly a culture shock; I feel like I have to leave the house once per day as to not go stir crazy and lose my self of identity further and further. I’m not at that age where I have a stable home situation, I’m currently renting with loud, shitty neighbours so lockdown hasn’t been great for me as staying at home can be uncomfortable with them around. I prefer to go out in the early hours/late night though as to avoid people.

IDKNABYBIF22 · 17/01/2021 17:01

My standard Sunday activities would be:
Going for a walk; preferably with my family's dog, along the canal, which I can't do atm as they live in another county to me.
Seeing family (inside).
Seeing friends (inside).
Going to the pub for a Sunday roast.
Going to a nice local cafe for brunch or afternoon tea.
Going to the cinema.
Going on a day trip to a different city for shopping and food.
Going to the gym.
Going for a swim.
Going to watch niece and nephews play football, cricket etc.
Going to visit friends for the weekend.
Going away for the weekend, in the UK and abroad.
Plus weddings, christenings, birthdays etc.

Atm the only activity left that involves going outside my flat is walking around my local area. And yes; the routes are busier than usual, but is it really any fucking wonder?

There is nothing I would love more than to skip my daily walk and just pop round to see my family in the morning, then go for a pub Sunday roast with my best friend, head back to hers to watch a film and drink tea, then take my niece for her swimming lesson at 5pm, and then have dinner with my in laws. I miss my old life terribly, and can't wait for it to return. But until then, local walks it is.

CorianderBee · 17/01/2021 17:02

Just because you have always walked doesn't give you any more right to the space than new walkers who's regular hobbies are banned.

You don't own the outside.

Littlewhitedove2 · 17/01/2021 17:02

No one is just ‘discovering waking’ OP. We have all known about walking but usually there are 100 other interesting things to do and people to meet.
Walking is literally the only thing left? Really baffled as to why you don’t know this? Where have you been?

AndcalloffChristmas · 17/01/2021 17:11

YABU

I hate this entitled attitude from people lucky enough to live in nice areas.

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