I’m 8 weeks postpartum and the last few months have been hellish- difficult pregnancy, traumatic emcs, sepsis, feeding issues, baby weight loss, dental issues of course the pandemic and the isolation that brings. I have PND and I think he does too but won’t admit it. He also has severe OCD and intrusive thoughts and health anxiety.
DH has also had a cancer scare and many many investigation and he is a frontline health worker. Neither husband nor I bonded with the babies but I have now- he is still really struggling with this and is not bonding. I am struggling physically post sepsis and we are both exhausted. We are constantly arguing and bickering and he has admitted that he won’t share his feelings with me
and doesn’t want my support. At the moment I feel we are just two people who live together but we are not getting on. I find watching him struggle with the babies traumatic- he is very short tempered when they cry.
I feel like this is a living hell. We have no family nearby and I feel like our previously strong relationship is at breaking point. We aren’t spending quality time together because we are so exhausted and battling our own demons. How do we get out of this?