AIBU in wanting to help with vaccine

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I have an interview to volunteer to do the vaccines. I always complain that I never know what to do with jobs and careers and want to be part of something bigger and thought this would be a way of helping during the pandemic, when it comes up at school for my children I could feel proud that I did something, learn new skills etc.

However. My family do not want me to do it. My husband thinks I'm being selfish putting the family at risk by exposing myself to people for the sake of 'gloating' as he called it later on. My mum and sister think the same and just want me to stay safe.

There is a bit of a history of my husband not wanting me to do things when we were younger eg wouldn't let me go on girls holidays or to a festival because of safety and so I don't know if I am being defensive and wanting to go forward with this to almost prove that I'm stronger now and want to follow my own goals and better myself.... or whether I actually need to consider that we are in a pandemic and of course he is going to worry about extra germs I could bring back to the house for the safety of our children and ourselves and maybe I should leave it to the professionals this time round.

He says he just wants me to be patient and follow ambitions when children are older instead.

AIBU in wanting to help? Or should I just look after my own family safety and not try and help with the wider community too?

My mum is a health care professional who is qualified to do the vaccines. They won't let her until she's had her own vaccine to protect her first. I'd be fairly sure the same would be true for volunteers

Go for it.

They have said volunteers won't get the vaccine

I wouldn't be able to forgive myself say if I did bring something home and either I or my family got poorly. But I worry that I'm going to look back and have missed out on an amazing opportunity.

I would do it, if I was young enough to feel I would probably shrug off the virus if I caught it, or if I could be sure of receiving the vaccine before I started. I think they say the first jab takes 14(?) days to create some immunity, so I would want the jab 2 weeks before putting myself into that situation.

It's a great thing to get involved in. I won't qualify for the jab until March, but if they still need people to help at that stage, I'd like to do it. Your motives are good and you don't need to justify them to anyone... just weigh it up carefully.

Are you actually going to be giving the vaccine, or just helping with the marshalling? If the latter you will be able to keep distanced and probably at no higher risk than visiting Tesco.
You may well get chance to get a vaccine anyway if they have some left at the end of the day.
Go for it!

I think theres two separate issues.

If he is worried about you getting the virus then thats a valid concern, a lot of people would feel the same and I would listen to him.

If he is generally trying to stop you doing things and wants you to 'follow ambitions when the children are older' then fuck that, who said that you have to shelve all your ambitions when you have children? Has he?

Yes if I could get the vaccine then I would definitely do it but when I asked they said that wasn't an option. I'm 35 so won't be getting the vaccine any other way for a long time so if I did volunteer it would be going in without that protection.

Go for it! Your husband sounds like a controlling twat.

Is there a link for applying?

@FFSAllTheGoodOnesArereadyTaken

I think theres two separate issues.

If he is worried about you getting the virus then thats a valid concern, a lot of people would feel the same and I would listen to him.

If he is generally trying to stop you doing things and wants you to 'follow ambitions when the children are older' then fuck that, who said that you have to shelve all your ambitions when you have children? Has he?

I worry it's kind of both?

I suppose because my mum and my sister feel the same I'm wondering if it is him being genuine about safety worries rather than my own historic paranoia about anything controlling wise. I think that's why I wanted to check what others thoughts were

Oh gosh, I really think you should do it. It sounds like something you have been looking for and would offer you some fulfillment.