AIBU to think that it shouldn’t always be first come, first served?

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DH and I are both carrying out the exercise we used to do at the gym at home. I follow a programme that my personal trainer set for me; he does yoga. We both use the living room.

I normally do my sessions first thing in the morning whilst he's either in bed or in the kitchen having breakfast or once a week I have a virtual session with my PT at 12pm, whilst he is working. His times are more random. Yesterday, I had finished work and was reading in the living room and he wanted to do yoga. I said I didn’t mind if he did it whilst I was reading, but he didn’t want to do it in front of me and went to use the bedroom - no drama.

Normally, he finishes work at 5pm on a Friday but today he’s obviously finished earlier and come down to use the living room to do yoga which means now I’ve finished work, I’m relegated to the bedroom.

Am I being unreasonable to think that he should have used the bedroom again today? If you want to use a room for something other than its normal purpose, you shouldn’t do it if it means putting someone else out? Or is it ok if you’re there first? Do you have dibs?

If he was there first snd had started before you finished work then I think he can continue. But I'd also have a discussion about setting up a permanent exercise area in your bedroom or wherever so you can both do your thing without inconveniencing anyone else.

How long will his yoga go on for? I can't see it's a problem if it's a standard hour or so and he'd already started before you came down, although he doesn't get to refuse you access if you're happy to be there while he exercises. If he needs the room all evening that's different.

If you both usually use the living room and he only used the bedroom as a one-off yesterday I can see why he'd default back to the living room.

I wouldn't mind - how long can a yoga session take, I'd be fine taking myself elsewhere - but if it bothers you, work around each other. If you want to be in a specific room at a specific time let him know. And if he's starting to use a room at a time he normally does he can shoot you a message to that effect.

Or first served, first come. Depends on the type of party

Is the living room the most convenient room tv/space wise?

If I was just sitting reading I'd be happy to move elsewhere if so.

Our living room has the large tv and most floor space.

Why does he need such privacy to do yoga?
Is it a zoom class?

I do yoga every morning in the living room, around 7am as OH is getting ready for work, he know not to talk to me, but he is usually pottering about getting chargers for his laptop, picking up stuff etc.
I am in the zone so I barely notice he is there, and he keeps as quiet as possible as he moves around.
I find it a bit strange that your OH needs you to sit in the bedroom tbh.

I’m more than happy to sit in the bedroom whilst he does yoga, it’s just that he didn’t even give me a heads up this evening that he was going to do it and just took over the living room.

But he’s agreed now that he will 'book' the room out from now on.

@speakout I’m not sure why he won’t do yoga in front of me. We’ve been married 20 years. I’ve seen him in lots of different positions.

I’ve seen him in lots of different positions.

Lol.