To think that a ' new' relationship that started through covid

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And its various lockdowns provide a good foundation for the relationship or are we living ina bubble of something that isn't real.
Long story short , met current man six months ago and through the various lockdowns we have been able to bubble up and spend eow and the odd night together. We are both divorced with kids.
We cannot do the usual
Date activities .. cinema, dinners, parties, family and friends events etc of course so we cook, walk, watch films, take short drives and abide by the rules .
I do wonder if this is a false sense of reality/ security ? We get on so well, spend hours in one another's company , eat, laugh, lots of Sex but it's a strange feeling as we've never done the dating part .
Perhaps I am worried that when the restrictions lift ,in god only knows when , whether we will last . If and when It will be back to normal , could it all fall apart ? Perhaps I am overthinking . I adore him and believe it's mutual and am looking forward very much to us actually dating but I wonder , because these restrictions are so weird, will we survive it as a couple and go on to develop . Who can tell I suppose but does anyone else think like this or AIBU ?

Aww OP he sounds lovely. I think the complete opposite - if you can make lockdown and its mundanity interesting with a partner that’s a massive positive. I think it’s quite easy to enjoy someone’s company dating - less easy day to day life. Plus you have all the fun stuff to look forward to - stop overthinking and enjoy!

I've got the same thing going on! Not going out is weird and we did manage a night away in the autumn but currently enjoying domesticity!

A friend did say that she maintains that we are doing all the leg work now and I f we can get through this, it can only get better .. but she is a die hard romantic !

I agree with your friend OP. EOW and an occasional night isn't a lot, so unlikely to get bored of each other, whatever you do.

I've done similar. Since we've become more comfortable with each other his drinking has increased. I'm now wary of what he would be like in a pub because he gets argumentative when drunk. I know in his younger days (from other people) that he had a few scraps when drink was involved.

Things that have put me off men:
Table manners, fussy eating etc.
The way they speak about other people, the old one of how they treat servers etc.
How they change in a group, especially if they're with their mates.
You don't know if he's possessive. You don't know if he's stingy.

You aren't seeing him often. It's spaced out enough that he is still on his best behaviour. I was seeing mine three times a week and luckily the veil slipped before I invested time by going out etc.

Another perspective is that he has enough time to do what he wants and fit your wants in. It might not work so well when you'd want more of his time.

Why only EOW?

Enjoy it....
If it doesn't last ...meh...
If it does last whooppee...

Just to add I've known my dalliance for about a year before we got together. He is very different as a bf. A previous partner was the same, great as a mate, lovely when it was us, but quite jealous, domineering when out.

My partner and I moved in together shortly before lockdown and we both have a sense of "if we can live through this without wanting to murder each other we can live through anything"

It’s all the mundane shit that makes a relationship work, the cooking, walks, tv.. just being together at home. If you’re happy together doing these things then it’s all good. I’ve had relationships where it’s all fun and exciting at the start where you’re getting dressed up to go out on exciting dates but when it’s just the two of you at home watching Corrie that excitement fizzles away and you aren’t left with much.

I think it's s bit of a bubble - not being able to see friends or go out on the lash etc. Few competing demands...

You'll be fine. Your relationship will adapt.

It sounds like things are going so well, you don't trust it and are looking for reasons to worry!

This is interesting as I am in a similar situation having started dating someone in lockdown but we have not moved in together or bubbled so obviously can’t touch each other.
We talk a lot but mainly on the phone over zoom etc. We send each other lots of messages every day. I think I really like him but I can’t really say it is a relationship because of the circumstances.

@PumpkinWitch

This is interesting as I am in a similar situation having started dating someone in lockdown but we have not moved in together or bubbled so obviously can’t touch each other. We talk a lot but mainly on the phone over zoom etc. We send each other lots of messages every day. I think I really like him but I can’t really say it is a relationship because of the circumstances.

Im a rule follower by nature. I'm also happily married, but if I wasn't I'm not sure I'd let Covid stop me. I've not seen a colleague in 10 months, can't hug my mum, only see my friends on walks or zoom. I think I'd break for a boyfriend. Especially if he was living the same hermatic life as me.

Love52 we won’t be doing it for much longer. We are both going to get the vaccine as (through work) and after that it will be different. We also both have toddlers (mine is with me full time) so logistically it is more difficult.

For non-covid balance now-DH and I were very much like this when we first started going out.

Some dinner and coffee dates sure but mostly, and very early on, just hanging out in cosy domesticity. We just clicked and it was easy and natural to be together in that way. It never changed- we both just knew what we wanted and it all fit together.

Best of luck but it sounds like you're building a lovely foundation there😍

Thanks. I'm glad I posted as I was overthinking for sure . The key is to enjoy the moments and don't sweat the future I guess . I've been hurt so badly in the past but that's a whole other mess I'd rather ignore !