To ask what you think this man's relationship status might be?

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He constantly works. We work somewhere where it is possible to work very long hours. He works lots of days in a row, often fortwelve hour shifts.
Sometimes I can see a pattern that he works the shifts when you get antisocial hour pay. Sometimes it just seems like he signs himself up for the least popular. He works every weekend often Friday late shift, Sunday early.
I'm just wondering if there is a gf or bf or spouse whether they would be happy about this or whether it suggests he's not in a relationship... what other explanations could there be? Saving up for something? Debt? Nothing to do during pandemic so might as well earn the money?
Answers on a postcard please!

Could be childcare issues .

I know someone who always works Fridays and a weekend as there partner is off those days to have the DD

Stalker alert!

I think I know this man. He's a husband and has two kids. Before the pandemic his wife used to go on a lot of holidays 😆

Why does it even concern you? Like at all ??

I would assume either single and saving. Or partner is doing similar and they are saving. Or he is dealing with ‘stuff’ and throwing himself into work helps. Maybe has two jobs and this fits round the other ? Or indeed childcare juggling going on.
Might have thrilling other life of adventure in the months he’s not working his ass off to fund it good luck op.

I suppose I'm just curious because I don't understand the mentality. I love my job but I feel I do it better because I have a break. I get to a point where I thin 'that's all I can do.' Surely after a while the money isn't enough?
For example I have worked with many a dr over the years who is in their senior years, grown up kids, wife/ husband etc. Then they work until 10 at night doing private work and I think what is it all for? Surely it gets to a point where you have enough money and it's time to enjoy your life.

Partner in retail (or any other job) where it's normal to work weekends.

Build up a strong pension retire early

I worked all hours available when i was newly qualified as I had over €20k debt which I wanted to clear ASAP. (I’m not based in UK so not a student loan scheme). I did at least two overtime shifts a week on top of a 40 hour a week job.

^ meant to say I was in a steady relationship at the time too

Twin newborns.

Maybe they love their job and it's not about the money.

@CoRhona

Maybe they love their job and it's not about the money.

This is what I came to say. I'm NHS doing a lot of overtime atm to help colleagues as lots off sick or isolating and what else is there to do ?

Are you basically hoping to shag him and are desperate to find out whether he’s working all hours because he’s lonely? And just waiting to be rescued by you?

Sounds like a normal doctor on the covid rota. We have kids and relationships too.

Why can’t you just ask him?

I pick weekends because you get unsocial hours pay and I get an extra day off in the week also you can work less because the unsocial payments add up.
It doesn't mean something sinister

Also just mention partners in a conversation it doesn't need to be creepy!!

Hiding from emotional problems by working all the time.

Lots of people have to work a lot just to make ends meat, maybe he has money troubles

Avoiding the temptation to do something (drugs) etc

When I lived with my parents I worked a full time office job and part time shifts in a pub. For lots of reasons- to save up for a house, for the social side, to get some space away from my parents, and because I had the energy to do it (and no real housekeeping responsibilities). That’s a few reasons.
Why not just ask?

Loves his job, feels useful? Is good at it? Makes a difference to people? Childcare? Carer for family etc during the dayI work in the NHS in a short staffed area I could work 24 hours a day, every day overtime if I wanted to as they’re that short staffed. I often do extra to make sure all the patients are seen and I enjoy the job. Really might not be the money, there’s more to a job than that, maybe it’s just that these are the shifts that don’t have as much cover x

Knows that on the graveyard shifts there is less managerial supervision / lower workload so comes to the office and serves the net on someone else's dime?

You clearly fancy him