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No free school meals during Feb half term

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noblegiraffe · 14/01/2021 13:27

The new guidance on free school meals says that schools should not provide food or vouchers during Feb half term.

This won’t be needed as some general funding is going to LAs and they will be expected to provide food/support for the week schools are off.

This is bonkers, right? They’ve only just sorted it so that kids get more than a manky banana, cheese and dry bread for lunch and they’re going to switch to a different system for a week?

Does this government just really hate feeding hungry kids?

YANBU: sticking with one system for feeding disadvantaged kids would be best

YABU: it’ll be fine, no one will fall through the cracks and the transition will be seamless.

No free school meals during Feb half term
OP posts:
BLToutanowhere · 21/01/2021 10:16

Sorry, but parents do need to retain some responsibility for their own children.

I've sympathy and am happy to provide support for families who have fallen on hard times because well, you know, life happens.

On the flip side, you want x, y and z, work for it. Don't expect me to pay for your selfish lifestyle.

We should also be looking at why we allow absent parents to jettison financial responsibility. No contact? Fine. But don't be creating new families when you don't provide for the ones you already have.

Marcus Rashford's tax affairs also seem to be less than above board, just saying. Absolutely typical of the left. Shout from the high heavens as long as someone else pays for it.

VinylDetective · 21/01/2021 10:27

[quote Wheresmykimchi]@redpencil77

I can see why you quoted it since it went so well the first time.

However....

The original comment was out of line and so is yours.[/quote]
Was it the feed and breed trope? So clever and its posters are so pleased with themselves. Why don’t we just accept that there’s no place in a civilised society for hungry children and it doesn’t matter who feeds them as long as they go to bed with a full tummy?

Aprilx · 21/01/2021 11:14

Don’t agree with either YABU or YANBU. Parents should be able to come up with five lunches for their children. I am from a deprived background and was on free school meals for most of my childhood, it does not mean that my parents were unable to ever feed me (and my three siblings) anything themselves. I am going back a while, but I am sure the state was not expected to feed us out of term time.

VinylDetective · 21/01/2021 11:17

@Aprilx

Don’t agree with either YABU or YANBU. Parents should be able to come up with five lunches for their children. I am from a deprived background and was on free school meals for most of my childhood, it does not mean that my parents were unable to ever feed me (and my three siblings) anything themselves. I am going back a while, but I am sure the state was not expected to feed us out of term time.
I’m pretty sure we weren’t in the throes of a pandemic when you were a child @Aprilx. Comparisons with the past are meaningless right now.
Mittens030869 · 21/01/2021 11:26

Sorry, I haven't answered the question about half-term. The pandemic has caused hardship for a lot of families and it isn't right that children should go hungry. So yes, I think free school meals should be provided during the half-term holidays.

UndertheCedartree · 21/01/2021 14:57

@redpencil77 - and what if it wasn't down to contraception? Parents are struggling financially because of illness, disability, being carers- what then?

Wheresmykimchi · 21/01/2021 15:08

@VinylDetective indeed. That the gvt hate paying but not as much as the parents.

perditaplum · 21/01/2021 15:14

Feeding children in school holidays has never been a thing the government has had to be responsible for before - now, it's "the wicked government this, the wicked government that". Personal responsibility?

I work for a Tory controlled council who have reduced my minimum wage income by £90 a month. Can you not see why I might struggle to feed my children who are now off school due to being CEV. ? My heating bills have gone up, my wages have gone down and the children are no longer in school getting a lunch. My commuting expenses have not gone down as I still have to go to work.

Wheresmykimchi · 21/01/2021 15:19

@BLToutanowhere

Sorry, but parents do need to retain some responsibility for their own children.

I've sympathy and am happy to provide support for families who have fallen on hard times because well, you know, life happens.

On the flip side, you want x, y and z, work for it. Don't expect me to pay for your selfish lifestyle.

We should also be looking at why we allow absent parents to jettison financial responsibility. No contact? Fine. But don't be creating new families when you don't provide for the ones you already have.

Marcus Rashford's tax affairs also seem to be less than above board, just saying. Absolutely typical of the left. Shout from the high heavens as long as someone else pays for it.

What is it that you think FSM families want ?

Marcus Rashford has an opinion like everyone else. Nothing to do with being left.

Wheresmykimchi · 21/01/2021 15:26

@redpencil77
'we agree to differ. Open up your home and house them, why don't you, that is what you are advocating, in effect, that society pay for their life choices. Contraception is free from the GP. Feeding children in school holidays has never been a thing the government has had to be responsible for before - now, it's "the wicked government this, the wicked government that". Personal responsibility?'

Oh red. Where to start. The fact you were one of the first in a very robust discussion to get your comment deleted should have been a clue that your views are ridiculous.

You seem a bit confused. Why does thinking that society should do their bit for vulnerable children mean I am advocating housing them all? There is no real connection there. Incidentally I'd house all of my vulnerable pupil tomorrow if could. But they don't actually need housed....

Well done on knowing that contraception is free. That's an excellent point that appears to have no connection whatsoever to the discussion though. FSM provision begins at five and goes right through school. Will this free contraception feed 13 year old children? I'm sure you are not advocating that people just never have children in case they run into difficulty. I sense you are a clever member of the can't feed em don't breed em campaign but if you think people actually actively have children to claim their free loaf and a bit of cheese in five years you are dreaming. And please remember with that clever comment these are actual humans who have been born.

No, the government didn't do FSM before (although it was debated ). Are you aware that there's a pandemic? And these are different circumstances?

I've never used the words wicked government, but I'm also baffled as to why anyone would jump on threads like these to defend the Tories.

redpencil77 · 21/01/2021 18:04

@BLToutanowhere

Sorry, but parents do need to retain some responsibility for their own children.

I've sympathy and am happy to provide support for families who have fallen on hard times because well, you know, life happens.

On the flip side, you want x, y and z, work for it. Don't expect me to pay for your selfish lifestyle.

We should also be looking at why we allow absent parents to jettison financial responsibility. No contact? Fine. But don't be creating new families when you don't provide for the ones you already have.

Marcus Rashford's tax affairs also seem to be less than above board, just saying. Absolutely typical of the left. Shout from the high heavens as long as someone else pays for it.

You have said this far more eloquently than me - thank you.

I imagine those opposed to my view are not on a household income of 16190. Can you imagine trying to keep body and soul together on after tax about 800 quid a month before bills?

So here is my lived experience: I have, as a child, as an adult. I have also lived in the south. There is no way that people can be poor in the south. I have lived in the north too, for work. Southern attitudes are, if working class: moan at the elitist government that they aren't digging deep enough, and amplified by the twitterati / celebrity bandwagon from the middle classes who have hit the middle-upper class glass ceiling.

In the north? You are skint, you save for it, you cut back, your family steps in, wordlessly, and fills in the holes. No questions, no invisible favours lists ("i did this for you, twice, you owe me") and if not family, friends, colleagues.

I do not advocate starving kids or the things you have said in your posts about my attitude being x or y. Its about the middle classes who like to open their gobs to close them again.

The issue is wider: noone wants to be on benefits and get handouts when they can have the independence and choice of working. And yet, two parents earning, one on a zero hours contract maybe are strugging, seriously, to make ends meet.

In the 80s in coal mining town my father lost his job and took him 4 weeks to find another. Unemployment money was not paid for the first 4 weeks - so they had nothing - literally nothing, my mum with an 18 month old and me. She rallied, but she told me since there was 3 days that the child money (about 15 quid a week) couldnt stretch and she and dad were on "cabbage soup" with "bits". Me and my sibling ate lile normal. It was nettle soup she had collected (being a war child she was resourceful) potatoes off the neighbour and kidneys the butcher gave her because the butcher's wife, who had a son in my school class found out about our situation. As a child I could have had free school lunches but noone told her. We were fed first, with vegetables, cereals, milk, our usual food. The point it, it was crap and the system has improved majorly. But too many people think its ok for "everyone" to be "entitled" to have as many children as they like consequenceless, backed up by people who really have no idea and think because it's what they "think" that this is "reality" when they have never lived on the grinding poverty of 800 quid a month and nothing else.

What people reallt need is the ability to work, and be paid fairly for work. We will never get this in a hierarchical society because inequalities will always exist and whatever

As I grew up there were plenty of families on our council estate with serial pregnant mums. They sent them out to "play" and their friends -me included - would be encouraged to bring them back for lunch or tea, as parents a bit better off than their parents fed them. Otherwise we knew they would provay get a bag of crisps for lunch, maybe a sip of milk or a tin of beans - between them - for tea (this is the north, remember - in the south this would never happen).

I saw it, I grew up there, before you say "this can't possibly be true as yiu sip your latte and eat your brie sandwich, then denigrate people with a different opinion to you as "racist" or "Malthusian"

Have you stood and campaigned change in employment and education of parents in bringing children up better? Where were you when the children's centres closed? Campaigning en masse? This is where massive differences came from, normalising good social practise, raising aspirations in women so they could be reslonsible - contraception advice, breastfeeding advice, work and skills opportunities. And also the idea that serially breeding is a bad idea and that it's morally wrong to financially support the feckless.

Until you have, and campaigned properly until it made a real difference, rather than "nasty tories and prejuduced people are stopping money going to where it needs to go" keep it shut against people who have a legitimite view different to you. Money is only the answer when you don't want to get your hands dirty but do want to appease yiur conscience.

WhatWouldPhyllisCraneDo · 21/01/2021 18:23

@redpencil77 what do you mean by There is no way that people can be poor in the south?

Wheresmykimchi · 21/01/2021 18:27

@redpencil77 I have never read such a racist, classist, unsubstantiated , stereotypical, uneducated pile of absolute drivel in all my life.

The fact you think that it in someway passes as an intelligent opinion is breathtaking.

VinylDetective · 21/01/2021 18:33

Have you stood and campaigned change in employment and education of parents in bringing children up better? Where were you when the children's centres closed? Campaigning en masse? This is where massive differences came from, normalising good social practise, raising aspirations in women so they could be reslonsible - contraception advice, breastfeeding advice, work and skills opportunities. And also the idea that serially breeding is a bad idea and that it's morally wrong to financially support the feckless

I, along with many other people, voted for this. Remember SureStart? Big Labour policy in the first ten years of this century and the salvation of thousands of families. Then Cameron came along and closed them all. That’s why I’ll condemn Tories who think food banks are “uplifting” and slag off UNICEF for feeding deprived people in the fifth richest country in the world.

We shouldn’t have to campaign for kids to have enough to eat. It should be a given and it shouldn’t be nettle soup. And how dare you tell me to shut up? It’s because I lived in poverty when my son was little that I care and I’ll hold this apology for a government to account because someone has to as well as paying the taxes they just give to their millionaire mates.

Wheresmykimchi · 21/01/2021 18:34

@VinylDetective

Have you stood and campaigned change in employment and education of parents in bringing children up better? Where were you when the children's centres closed? Campaigning en masse? This is where massive differences came from, normalising good social practise, raising aspirations in women so they could be reslonsible - contraception advice, breastfeeding advice, work and skills opportunities. And also the idea that serially breeding is a bad idea and that it's morally wrong to financially support the feckless

I, along with many other people, voted for this. Remember SureStart? Big Labour policy in the first ten years of this century and the salvation of thousands of families. Then Cameron came along and closed them all. That’s why I’ll condemn Tories who think food banks are “uplifting” and slag off UNICEF for feeding deprived people in the fifth richest country in the world.

We shouldn’t have to campaign for kids to have enough to eat. It should be a given and it shouldn’t be nettle soup. And how dare you tell me to shut up? It’s because I lived in poverty when my son was little that I care and I’ll hold this apology for a government to account because someone has to as well as paying the taxes they just give to their millionaire mates.

An intelligent response to a deranged post.
friedafinn · 21/01/2021 18:34

In the north? You are skint, you save for it, you cut back, your family steps in, wordlessly, and fills in the holes. No questions, no invisible favours lists ("i did this for you, twice, you owe me") and if not family, friends, colleagues.

You and I seem to live in a very different North as that comes nowhere close to my experiences in the north of being 'on yer own mate' When the shit hit the proverbial fan doors were slammed shut in my face and nobody, but nobody, wanted to know.

LizFlowers · 22/01/2021 02:41

@VinylDetective

If it came to light that an MP had the same arrangements they would be ripped to shreds. That's double standards, and it's not a good look

Of course they would because MPs are publicly accountable and paid by the taxpayer. Rashford isn’t. That’s not double standards it’s false equivalence.

I agree with you.

Personally I couldn't give a flying F about Marcus R's tax arrangements which are not, as far as I can make out, illegal. No doubt he pays a fair whack in tax but who wants to give more money to the government than they have to? It's not as if the money is spent wisely. The media should keep their noses out of his finances, he's a decent bloke.

Wheresmykimchi · 22/01/2021 02:53

@VinylDetective

Have you stood and campaigned change in employment and education of parents in bringing children up better? Where were you when the children's centres closed? Campaigning en masse? This is where massive differences came from, normalising good social practise, raising aspirations in women so they could be reslonsible - contraception advice, breastfeeding advice, work and skills opportunities. And also the idea that serially breeding is a bad idea and that it's morally wrong to financially support the feckless

I, along with many other people, voted for this. Remember SureStart? Big Labour policy in the first ten years of this century and the salvation of thousands of families. Then Cameron came along and closed them all. That’s why I’ll condemn Tories who think food banks are “uplifting” and slag off UNICEF for feeding deprived people in the fifth richest country in the world.

We shouldn’t have to campaign for kids to have enough to eat. It should be a given and it shouldn’t be nettle soup. And how dare you tell me to shut up? It’s because I lived in poverty when my son was little that I care and I’ll hold this apology for a government to account because someone has to as well as paying the taxes they just give to their millionaire mates.

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sweeneytoddsrazor · 22/01/2021 02:57

No child should go hungry should indeed be true. How that should be dealt with is a completely different subject. I have had far too many arguments with parents trying to spend their vouchers on anything but food. The worst was the start of the summer holidays when families were given all their vouchers in one go. In one day alone we refused 9 televisions and we are just one shop.

Wheresmykimchi · 22/01/2021 02:59

@sweeneytoddsrazor

No child should go hungry should indeed be true. How that should be dealt with is a completely different subject. I have had far too many arguments with parents trying to spend their vouchers on anything but food. The worst was the start of the summer holidays when families were given all their vouchers in one go. In one day alone we refused 9 televisions and we are just one shop.
Televisions. Really. On 15 quid?
friedafinn · 22/01/2021 03:29

Televisions. Really. On 15 quid?

No. On £90. Allegedly.

Sinful8 · 22/01/2021 03:48

"No doubt he pays a fair whack in tax but who wants to give more money to the government than they have to?"

People who want a national program to give out free stuff?

Sinful8 · 22/01/2021 04:04

@friedafinn

Televisions. Really. On 15 quid?

No. On £90. Allegedly.

Well that is the price for a budget 32" TV these days
VinylDetective · 22/01/2021 08:24

@sweeneytoddsrazor

No child should go hungry should indeed be true. How that should be dealt with is a completely different subject. I have had far too many arguments with parents trying to spend their vouchers on anything but food. The worst was the start of the summer holidays when families were given all their vouchers in one go. In one day alone we refused 9 televisions and we are just one shop.
Oh look, a pig just passed by my bedroom window.
Bookworming · 22/01/2021 09:36

No child should go hungry should indeed be true. How that should be dealt with is a completely different subject. I have had far too many arguments with parents trying to spend their vouchers on anything but food. The worst was the start of the summer holidays when families were given all their vouchers in one go. In one day alone we refused 9 televisions and we are just one shop

Yeah right! Nine on one day you say? 🤔