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Please help me snap out of it....

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Namechange126 · 14/01/2021 10:21

It's another Tinder thread.....

Please don't judge and to be kind, I've come here as I struggle with my feelings and its making me feel down.

I've met a few dates over the past few months, I've got on well with all of them. I'm now currently down to talking a lot to 2. Both lovely guys. They both live about 30/45 mins away. Yes I've slept with both of them. #1 I met just before NY and I ended up spending NY with him. There was a lot of Chemistry. And I like him a lot. Like so much it hurts. And I hate how I feel I just want to snap out of it because guy #2 shows more interest and seems more keen. I can't even describe it, #1 was like love at first sight and I want to move my feelings to guy #2. It's hard to explain. Both speak everyday but I get on better with #2 but #1 I prefer to speak with as he's the one I'm basically falling for. I'm late 20s so I feel so stupid I even feel like this. I haven't felt like this towards anyone in years. Normally I take a long time to feel how I do.

How did you cope when this happened or does anyone have any suggestions how to snap out of it with #1? I wish my feelings towards #1 were the feelings I have towards #2. I do like #2 but how I feel.towards #1 basically hurts. #1 I have to even be careful what I say to him as I wanna say the right thing, which I guess sounds bad. He knows I like him a lot and he says he likes me too and wants to see me again. #2 seems more keen to meet again than #1. I can't even explain it, I just want to snap about of basically being in love with #1. And need to know how to. I probably sound stupid and fully prepared to be told it too. It's making me feel down. What #2 does it what I want #1 to do. #1 doesn't talk about meeting again or video calls yet #2 does, I wish I felt more strongly for #2!

Okay I'm rambling on and fully prepared to be laughed at. Normally I don't feel feelings this quick which is why I can't cope with them.

OP posts:
Namechange126 · 14/01/2021 10:34

Forgot to add I've met #2 twice and I got along well with him, he also has kids whereas #1 doesn't but claims he does want them.

OP posts:
isthatatree · 14/01/2021 12:11

You can't be with #2 because its not fair you don't seem to really fancy him he is just nice to you, its not fair to lead him on if you don't have feelings for him.

Is #1 not a nice person?

Zebraaa · 14/01/2021 12:19

You like #1 more because he’s not as keen as #2 !

smalalalalalala · 14/01/2021 14:18

Agree with Zebraaa

But maybe you should take a break from both. With time, it might be clearer.

Plus I feel that if you're hesitating, none of them is right.

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