[quote fifiKma]@17:10SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius
When I think about it you are completely right. I have been suffering from pn anxiety since the birth. I'm feeling much better on the meds this month but he choked in hospital and I guess that is preying on my mind again. Now I'm having a panic about things that could happen to him if he can move around. I guess this is like they say about pnd and anxiety affecting baby development.[/quote]
I suffer from anxiety too, @fifiKma, so I understand where you are coming from. But the fact that you have identified what is going on is a big step forward in tackling it.
My three boys are all grown up now (23, 25 and 27), and two of them have graduated and got jobs - but I still find myself worrying about them sometimes - I tend to think this is a fairly normal part of being a parent. I certainly remember doing a LOT of worrying while they were children, and as they have grown up. Some worries are rational - like worrying about things that could hurt them, as they start to be mobile - but the good thing about that is that there are things you can do to lessen or remove those risks. Others are not rational - I remember worrying that I had permanently blighted their educational chances by not doing enough painting and drawing with them - and looking at them now (ds1 is a senior quantity surveyor, ds2 is a secondary school maths teacher and ds3 is about to finish his degree), I can see how daft that was.
We worry about our children because they matter so much to us, and because, as adults, we know that the world can be a dangerous place - the secret is not to let those anxieties rule our lives or our children's lives. When ds1 graduated and got his first job, it was hundreds of miles away from us, and there was a part of me that was thinking 'of course I want him to be an independent adult, living his own life, yadda yadda yadda - but why does he have to do it so far away from ME??' - and it was not easy to let go of that. But I did, and he has a flourishing career and a very happy life - he and his girlfriend got engaged last autumn.