That sex priority has changed for me?

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I know there is a sex category but I'm not going to go into the sex details.

Me and DP were friends with benefits for a while a few years before getting together. We now have 1yr old DC together. I fell pregnant not long after we officially got together so we dont really have a pre kids sex life to compare too so my DP often refers to the time we were fwb and says I'm not fun like I used to be, I'm not as adventurous etc.
In my opinion things arent the same now, when we were fwb it was spontaneous as I have an older child so we'd have to meet as and when I could and it was all about the sex because that's the point of a fwb.
Now we are a family, have a young DC and I dont have the time to be as spontaneous and make it all about sex. I do all of the household stuff and look after DC when not working so at the end of the day I'm knackered and it isn't high on my list of priorities most of the time. I wish we could have more intimate time together but with a young DC (and a teenage one who stays up later than us and is in the bedroom next door making it even harder to be alone) coupled with covid has made it impossible to get much alone time.

I literally can't even get close to him or kiss him without him thinking it needs to lead to sex and then if I say not now he responds with the oh you used to be so much more fun comments.

AIBU or is he?

I literally can't even get close to him or kiss him without him thinking it needs to lead to sex and then if I say not now he responds with the oh you used to be so much more fun comments.

Men like this are so tiresome. And selfish. And pathetic. I couldn't deal with that.

I do all of the household stuff and look after DC when not working so at the end of the day I'm Knackered

I’m not fun like I used to be, I'm not as adventurous etc

Sounds like a man-child who expects life to carry on as normal whilst leaving his partner to do all the hard work.

What do you get out of this relationship?

He sounds like a dickhead tbh. Maybe if he pulled his weight around the house and showed you actual affection (not the bum slap, tickle, can I have sex now? bollocks) then things might be different.

@constantlyseekinghappiness to be honest I'm not getting much out of it really, writing it down is making me realise this!

I don't really understand what you thought would change from fwb to having DC with him? Did you really think he was going to start treating you differently? It doesn't make sense. He already showed you who he is.

Having children changes relationships. Yours was based on sex when you were FWB.
Who first talked about becoming a couple?

Why are you doing all the housework and childcare? I’d go off sex if I was treated like a skivvy.

@merrydecembermas he had other girlfriends and one with kids in between us becoming a couple so I thought he'd have some idea that being in a relationship especially with a child is a far different set up than fwb.
@catty1720 it was all him, I was happy with our set up and it took a long time for him to convince me a relationship was a good idea (my ex before him had been a waste of space and I was pretty much done with relationships)
@annelovesgilbert nobody else would do it so it would be sit in a dirty house or I clean it. He seems to think childcare is my responsibility.

He sounds like a bit of a dick for not pulling his weight..... but

Maybe once things with covid calm down In a few months you could ditch the dc with grandparents and have a dirty weekend away/or even in the house? You’ll probably find that you need it just as much.