Left my ex 5 years ago due to domestic abuse, he was verbally vile. We have 3 children.
Money is his last bit of control. He does pay weekly but never a set time and he alternates the amount depending on whether he decides I'm spending the money on the kids or myself that week.
He is obsessed with my movements, if I go to the gym he accuses me of spending the kids money on the gym membership. If I went for a meal with friends, it's the kids money etc. I have always always worked and earn my own money.
He is an absolute dick. I have had police involved and non mol order put in place previously.
I have got to the point I have applied to CMS for a regular amount to be taken from him. He is self employed but has been sub contracted by the same firm for around 8 years, they provide wages. He then sends his income to an accountant at the end of the tax year and always ends up with a rebate.
He earns a fortune compared to me. His very minimum weeks wage before tax is £580, he often does overtime and can earn over £1000 per week.
My question is how his contribution will be worked out. His accountant will be dodgy. Ex will do what he can to pay bare minimum. How do I make sure his actual earnings are what is used to make the calculation?? I have done the application this morning and there's nowhere to include additional information!
I will do whatever is necessary, I've been nice for far too long, he needs to properly provide for his kids
Advice appreciated!!!