Who's being unreasonable?

[Flower8]

Ok this is going to seem really silly, but I'm just asking as i have trouble seeing thing's clearly as i have anxiety ect.

Ok so last night bf came over after not seeing him for a few day's. He was in a bad mood, didn't speak much to me ect anyway, we go to bed late and he's on his phone (not a problem) but with the volume up the whole way with it pinging every 10 seconds, it's now 11.45 and I've got to be up for work early. So i maybe a bit too sharply made a comment about it. To which he gets up slams the door whilst saying I'll see you when i next see you and goes to sleep on the sofa, gets up and leaves this morning.

Now should i be apologising? It's triggered me into a massive anxiety spiral and now work seems so overwhelming. Sorry i know this seems so stupid but i don't feel i did anything wrong?

He’s cheating on you. He’s met or is talking to others, hence the phone and doesn’t have the guts to dump you so has picked an argument about something petty as an excuse.

I wouldn’t give him the satisfaction of “dumping” him, I’d just never contact him again.

Dump dump dump

From your original post I'd get rid but now I've seen your updates I'd get rid with bells on.
What a tosser.

He is abusive. Get rid and I bet your anxiety will ease significantly.

He sound awful! You feel anxious because you’re constantly treading on eggshells. Seriously is he really worth it? Get rid of him, he has no right to police your phone or criticise your house. This won’t get better.

What an arsehole. Sometimes my DP will sit playing videos on his phone loud, but as soon as I mention it, the volume is either down, or the phone is turned off. It's like they have a deafness and don't realise that it'd be keeping me awake. That's fine - but then when you asked him to turn it down/off he should have done.

Also, I can't imagine not seeing DP for such a long time and then him not really wanted to spend quality time with me. That just sounds odd.

Does he even want to be with you? Do you even want to be with him? There are bigger problems here.

Also, sleeping on the sofa .. I can't STAND that. It's so immature. Talk your problems through if you have them. Make up. Stay in bed. But to walk off like that is just ridiculous.

He sounds awful.

You sound like an abused women.

Why are you accepting such dreadful treatment?

What about self respect?

He's an arsehole.

Block him and work on yout boundaries and figure out why all you want from your life is to tolerate and fix arseholes.

You deserve better

Definitely need to work on my boundaries, i was seeing a Councillor before covid, but I've not been able to.

Can't talk about anything apparently I'm argumentative and it end's up with ab argument. I'm really not argumentative I'm the opposite.

I think you're all right and have had this gut feeling for a while that i need to cut ties, just really hard, but i know deep down it's for the best