Dreams about high school sweetheart?

[Wellhellotherelove]

I’ve been finding recently I’ve been having quite vivid dreams about what you’d probably call my high school ‘sweet heart’ - really really odd and often set where I am the age I am now and we somehow meet up again. Occasionally dream about another guy I was mad about during secondary school too. No contact with either of them now (although connected on SM as I am with a lot of old school friends)

In these dreams we are often being really flirty even though we know we shouldn’t. They’re never sexual. I always wake up feeling slightly weird and wistful even though it’s been a good 10+ years since I’ve seen these people!!

Just to add, I am happy in my early 30s with a DP.

What I find weirder is the man I was in a relationship with for a lot of my 20s never features in my dreams, ever!! That was a really serious relationship and it’s like my subconscious doesn’t care (or my conscious mind for that matter!)

Anyone else similar?

Yep. Dreamt about my uni bf last week and felt similarly.

Yes. When I was early 30s, shortly after having a baby, I had exactly this: my subconscious was obsessed with mulling over what it was like with my distant ex boyfriends. Romantic but nonsexual dreams etc.

For me it was a side effect of how unromantic it was to have a newborn with dh, and the weirdness of being that committed to dh in a way I hadn’t been before.

The feeling went away in a few months I think. I did a bit of facebook stalking but no actual contact with exes. But it was strangely vivid how I’d felt about them, a lot of teenage feelings came back.

@Skysblue

Yes. When I was early 30s, shortly after having a baby, I had exactly this: my subconscious was obsessed with mulling over what it was like with my distant ex boyfriends. Romantic but nonsexual dreams etc.

For me it was a side effect of how unromantic it was to have a newborn with dh, and the weirdness of being that committed to dh in a way I hadn’t been before.

The feeling went away in a few months I think. I did a bit of facebook stalking but no actual contact with exes. But it was strangely vivid how I’d felt about them, a lot of teenage feelings came back.

Interesting! I wonder if mine is due to current stress of life at the moment too and yes, lack of romance with DP as a result!

Yes I have been having similar dreams about an ex of 10+ years. I also think lack of romance currently with DH and the boredom/stress of lockdown.

Yes! I am so glad to read that others have this! I am early 30s, very happily married with DC and I dream about my first boyfriend (from ages 15-17) really often. All romance, no sex. Like a PP, I do stalk him very occasionally on social media but nothing like as often as I dream about him.

@CouldItBeCake

Yes! I am so glad to read that others have this! I am early 30s, very happily married with DC and I dream about my first boyfriend (from ages 15-17) really often. All romance, no sex. Like a PP, I do stalk him very occasionally on social media but nothing like as often as I dream about him.

Glad it’s not just me! Honestly the poor man has probably not even thought about me since we were teenagers - if only he knew what went on in my weird dreams!!!

@worksleep

Yes I have been having similar dreams about an ex of 10+ years. I also think lack of romance currently with DH and the boredom/stress of lockdown.

Perhaps our brains are seeking comfort from a ‘simpler’ time!

I'm a lot older than you, op, and still have dreams about my boyfriend from age 16. Sometimes we're young, sometimes older. I've seen his profile on fb through our school page and can safely say I do not fancy him at all now

I think it must be something to do with the intensity of feelings at that time in your life. However many relationships I've had, nothing has felt that utterly exciting and terrifying as those teenage romances - sweaty slow dances at the school disco, snogging until your jaw hurt, secret phone calls in the phone box (told you I'm old )

I enjoy the dreams. It's nice to feel that way again.