To want cancer to just fuck off?

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A friend of mine( not close) passed away the other day from cancer...about 30 years too soon.
Then last year another young friend died of cancer and MIL who was 70 but still awful.
Now my dad has a biopsy for possible cancer and my mum died of it 10 years ago.
Perhaps worse is when i did work experience at the kids' hospital and seeing children without hair was heart breaking.
Aibu to want to cancer to fuck off and be horrified at how indescriminate and unfair it is?
Also, why do so many of us get it and why is chemo so shit at curing it?

Chemo and rads has hopefully done the trick for my and my dsis but sadly not for my older dsis . Now we wait to see how far my DH’s has travelled - know it’s incurable but hoping for lots of time together still

I've had it twice, I'm 60 now, I didn't my really need your outrage

@Sinful8
Heart disease?

Sorry. I don't really need your outrage

I wish cancer would fuck off. I have stage 4 breast cancer. There was less than a year between my initial treatment and it reappearing, bastard

Yep. My ds was diagnosed with AML at 16 months old, harrowing seeing him go through the brutal treatment. We were lucky though, he’s he with us still 5 years on, so many of the children and babies on that ward are not. A very dear friend had breast cancer in her 30’s and now my dad had lymphoma and suspected prostate cancer too. Feel like it’s every where.

@Davros, Op has lost her mother to it. Let her vent. She’s not trying to be outraged any behalf of anybody else.

@Jemimapuddleduk my dn has aml but he’s in his thirties, luckily he’s in remission. Pleased your ds is doing ok.
A friend’s dgd was diagnosed with leukaemia just a few weeks after birth and died as a v. young baby.
On his dm’s side 4 of dh’s aunts and uncles had cancer.
It really is a most horrible disease.

My son has AML, he's not going to make it

I hate cancer. I hate rare unresearched cancers, I hate paediatric cancers. I hate all cancer.

Me too :(

YANBU, my dad’s has just come back

blindspots

My Dad died of secondary liver cancer in December. He was given 12 months to live without treatment, he lasted 15 months with 2 courses of immunotherapy and died 3 days before his first course of chemo.

He only had about a year cancer-free following successful eradication of his first cancer before the liver one was discovered. He was only 64.

I really, really hate cancer.

YANBU! I've watched my DM go through treatments for 2 different types of cancer in the past 12 years. In remission at the moment. Even when someone is on remission it never really seems to go away. My grandfather died of cancer in his 70s and my cousin had leukaemia in his teens. Thankfully cousin survived. A friend has terminal cancer, she seems to be responding well to current treatment which I hope will give her a bit more time. She is a single mother with young children. BIL had cancer a few years ago but is on remission now. I'm hopeful that there is a lot of research going into cancer treatments. I don't know if there will ever be a cure though.

Blind spots
All the best to you and your boy

Sorry for your losses op

My mum died of cancer. My husband died of cancer.

Cancer does suck.

Cancer can go fuck itself! Hideous disease.

Cancer is fucking evil. Sorry for all your losses and struggles. It killed my wonderful grandad over 3 months in such a horrific way.

Everytime your cells divide, you accumulate mutations in your DNA. Fortunately, the vast majority of DNA doesn't code for any proteins, so you're fine. But as you get older and accumulate more and more mutations, eventually these will fall on a number of genes called onco-genes which code for proteins that might make your cell divide forever, become immortal, avoid immune system recognition and gain the ability to create their own blood vessels.

It takes a very long time for all this to happen, but that's why, if we were to live forever we would all develop cancer eventually and why it's so prevalent once you get to a certain age.

Younger people who get it are extremely, extremely unlucky, or tend to be predisposed to it.

Chemo doesn't work well on solid tumours because it acts on dividing cells, targeting the cell cycle, and the majority of cells within solid tumours are not dividing. Once you get metastasis to another organ it is also practically impossible to cure the cancer and it can only be slowed.

That said, 50% of cancer patients now live for over 10 years after diagnosis, so things are improving! We need to focus more on screening and early treatment and then we would see an increase in survival.

Praying this evil horrendous disease can be erased one day.

My dad died of it almost 5 years ago. Agreed, it can fuck right off.

My sister died of cancer less than 2 weeks ago. She was 39. By the end it had spread to pretty much everywhere including her brain. I looked after her at home apart from the last two weeks when she went into hospital and then a hospice. I was able to be with her, and held her hand as she died. Now I've got Covid, they can both fuck right off. Sorry for everyone's losses on here.