taking up a gp slot?

[TheFerretsSleeping]

dd has adhd and possible asd (waiting on tests) shes 11. The past week has been horrendous behaviour. Not meltdowns but proper nasty. Shes smashed my TV. Broke my dining room chairs. I'm black and blue. She also been grabbing kitchen knives waving them about (now locked away) saying shes going to stab me. Screaming, threats and just complete horrible behavoiur. I've called her pediatrician but no call back been waiting days. I can get a emergency gp appointment tomorrow morning.
Aibu to take the slot up and not just wait.
Any ideas who else can help.

Take it. Yanbu.

Of course you seek the help you need.

I guess I feel guilty and that I should just get on with it. I could get a normal gp appointment in a couple of days.

You both need help. This isn’t great for either of you. Take the appointment

YNBU Please do take the appointment.

Definitely take it, the other thing you could do is contact your local CAMHS service directly (the one in my borough take self referrals though may not necessarily accept it once they’ve read the info and may signpost on) but sounds like you/your dd need the support.

It isn't 'taking up' anything OP. It is utilising the service for completely appropriate reasons. Do not feel guilty about this for one second.

I have no expertise with ADHD so can't advise but I'm so sorry that you and your DD are going through this. You have a right to be safe from harm in your own home and clearly help is needed here for both of your sakes. I hope your GP can offer you something.

I tried the child metal health people but they said a gp has to refer her. I've ended up buying a lock for my bedroom and locking my self and ds1 and ds2 in with me. They are only 3 and 1. They so dont need to see this. We had a incident with dd in school before lockdown and the pediatrician just said lack of sleep. I cant exactly tie dd to the bed.

By all means see the GP but I aM not sure what you are expecting. IME GPs won’t/can’t prescribe ADHD meds And other than that in the short term I am not sure what outcome you would be hoping for. There is a vast amount of info online re parenting strategies etc for both ASD and ADHD. You may be better off heading down that route

Gp can make a referral to mental health in my area. I've tired her pediatrician but got no answer. I've got to do something. I'm dreading tomorrow Home schooling starts.

YANBU. Take the appt and continue to ring the paediatrician. It might also be worth speaking to school and social services although their help can be limited with these kinds of things.

Definitely use the appointment!!!!!

And don’t worry about school work (unless you find it helps with a routine): until things settle she’ll not take anything much in.

I could have written your op. My ds is exactly the same as your dd. We fortunately already have the adhd and add diagnosis and are currently trying to find the right meds for him. Please keep the appointment and ask your gp to refer her as it will be the only way to get your foot in the door, there may be a wait for help but at least you know it will be coming. Also have a look and see if you have early help in your area. You can self refer to them, they will be able to give you advice and strategies to help calm situations with your dd. It's a long slog and extremely heartbreaking when you don't know what to do but you will get there!

Take the appointment! GP might prescribe melatonin or an drowsy inducing anti - histamine to take the edge off and give you all a much needed rest.

Take it, sounds like you need urgent help. There's an out of hours mental health emergency number too that's worth getting for your area - better than calling 111, but do call them or even 999 if things are really out of control. I've been there, it's a nearly impossible situation even without covid in the mix. Do you have another adult in the house? If not is there someone you can turn to for help? We found that a second adult can calm the explosive situation though even though it wasn't always effective - plus I felt safer. I still have scars from various temper explosions but post puberty she's a lot calmer (and now on meds that make her dopey quite frankly) still has had her moments but we are talking once or twice a month rather than day!