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AIBU?

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to ask you to predict the future?

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2021wedding · 10/01/2021 15:35

People of Mumsnet, please get out your crystal balls. I'd love to know the future, I think you're all full of wisdom so please help.

DP and I are meant to get married July this year. We have put a deposit of 1.5k on the venue and 1k on the food (unrelated vendors). The venue is singularly owned and the woman has basically defrauded a lot of people with 2020 weddings. She told them they lost their money and if they want a wedding in 2021 they'd have to pay again (£7.5k for most, we have a smaller wedding so ours was cheaper). The judge in several cases that have gone to court ruled her behaviour and correspondence was 'disgusting' 'disgraceful' 'illegal' and she has had to pay back every penny, plus interest, plus fees.

Of course her behaviour has given me the ick, the venue feels tainted (lots of news articles) and we don't want to risk it. So we are wondering whether that money will be lost or if there's a chance to recoup.

I spoke to a solicitor and unless the wedding couldn't go ahead, their costs would be the same as the venue so they said it isn't worth the legal side (although they're 90% sure I'd win).

So tell me, in Wales, in July, do you think a wedding with 50 guests will go ahead? The venue also must allow members to stay (40 guests as per contract), this is in the bedrooms (not a hotel, more air bnb style - giant house) and is not covid secure.

If any part of this cannot go ahead, the contract should be frustrated, and I should get my money back.

Through this process we've found out the woman is a known con artist and it's not the first time she has done this, however, as a sole trader, she will pay up in court and has so far.

YABU - weddings for that many will go ahead in Wales in July
YANBU - so unlikely, weddings may happen, but limited numbers / weddings will not go ahead.

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Zaphodstowel · 10/01/2021 16:03

My crystal ball says that we will be out of strict lockdown by end of Feb, and the effects of the vaccine will be starting to be felt by April, with rules being relaxed and some wedding ceremonies with limited numbers going ahead.

However my crystal ball also says that large indoor reception parties involving alcohol and staying overnight are going to be pretty much the very very last thing to be allowed and unlikely by July.
So YNBU Grin

Funkypolar · 10/01/2021 16:39

I’ll ask BirdieFriend for you.

lunalucie · 10/01/2021 16:43

YABU. Drakeford will have us in lockdown until doomsday if he gets his way. Fingers crossed for you that it can go ahead.

Lockheart · 10/01/2021 16:44

My crystal ball tells me that Wales will be hit by a meteorite on 12 March at 4 in the afternoon.

Seriously OP no-one can tell you. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst. Call your wedding insurers.

Funkypolar · 10/01/2021 17:05

BirdieFriend says you aren’t getting married. Sorry OP. Sad

Santaiscovidfree · 10/01/2021 17:07

Here is my prediction..

to ask you to predict the future?
Elieza · 10/01/2021 17:21

Ahh, birdie friend. I remember those posts....Grin

Skysblue · 10/01/2021 17:24

I think things will start to get much better in terms of restrictions around May, and also in terms of daily fatalities, because the most vulnerable will be either vaccinated or already dead by then. There will still be a lot of cases however as schools will be open again.

There are likely to be some restrictions until the whole population has been offered the vaccine which they are aiming to do ‘by autumn.’ So:

My guess is that you will be fine for a wedding for 20 people or so but that 50 is a lotta ppl and it may not go ahead. (Are you sure you want it to? There have been some super spreader weddings in America I think.) Depends a bit on venue also eg an outdoor service under a gazebo followed by a marquee reception would be likely safer than lots of ppl stuffed in one room with booze.

Funkypolar · 10/01/2021 17:25

BirdieFriend says we are never going back to normal.

Elieza · 10/01/2021 17:34

I think birdie friend is probably right.

I certainly miss live music but I don’t think I will stand next to hundreds of people in the future any time soon once we are allowed. I’m wary now!

Apparently Nostradamus said something that implies corona will vanish as quickly as it came but reappear about four years later.

Great. Always nice to have world doom and gloom to look forward to. Grin

Francescaisstressed · 10/01/2021 18:41

Wales is very very far behind when it comes to giving out the vaccine, and I imagine we will have another spike around April/May time

Sparklingbrook · 10/01/2021 19:30

@Funkypolar

BirdieFriend says we are never going back to normal.
Unhelpful.
2021wedding · 10/01/2021 23:03

In case I wasn’t clear, I do NOT want the wedding to go ahead. We’ve decided a register office with 2 witnesses and a meal with families is our preferred route.

If it cannot go ahead we get our money back!

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