To throw out mail?

[Scottishshopaholic]

Basically DP and I will have been living at this property for a year as of tomorrow but we are still receiving mail for the previous owners.

When we first moved in I tried to keep all of it and was handing it over at intervals (they only live 5 minutes away). After a few months of this happening I suggested a mail redirect. To which I received a rather sour message, saying that they had already done this and had changed their address over with everything. This was obviously rubbish as we had just received a doctors letter for them (surely that’s something you’d change over quickly?)

Anyway most of the stuff that comes from them now is junk mail, stuff from charities etc, however a final demand came in for them today (looks like it’s from council). DP has mentioned he has thrown several of them away for them already. I feel a bit guilty about this, however they obviously haven’t got their shit together and aren’t exactly appreciative when we do hand it over.

To complicate matters we have a terrible relationship with them, when we received the keys house was filthy despite them saying they had professional cleaners in (I let this go knowing there was nothing they could do). We then had to get lawyers involved as they had wrongly advertised something relating to the house, we ended up taking a settlement from them out of court. Plus they left crap in the garden which I ended up giving away for free after months of them not coming to pick it up.

Anyway getting back to the mail, I think from now on I’ll bin the junk and return the important looking stuff to sender. I just really don’t want to ever speak to them again. DP just wants to bin it all. AIBU?

I still get mail & phone calls fir a woman who hadn't lived here in a good 15 years. Not sure how with the phone as there was another owner in between & I got a new phone number. Some mixing of contacts via address I suppose

I have resorted to asking them if they can communicate with the dead when they ask if I'm Mrs N. 🙄🙄🙇🏻‍♀️

I would return to sender, as I'd want to stop it coming rather than just keep on binning it. We got a few Christmas cards for previous inhabitant, same ones each year, I wish they'd tell these people that they have moved!
When we bought the house we were having some work done so not living in it yet, the builders told us the previous occupant tried to let himself in with his key to collect his post and was apparently most put out that we had changed the locks!

mark "return to sender"

especially the junk mail, or it will never stop.

Anything that looks like a final demand I would cross out the address and write no longer at this address. I would also glue a small envelope to it and put in a slip of paper with their current/last known address on it.

print up a sheet of "forward to new address labels" and forward anything that doesn't look like junk mail.
If your feeling courteous, contact them to let them know the date you will continue to do this for. Feeling irritated? Just do it until the end of the month, then either bin or return to sender.

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I'd bin everything. They're probably too tight to pay Royal Mail for the divert

We still get mail for the old owners at our house and we’ve been here 15 years. Twice a year we get a letter with a divided cheque in it (only know this as we accidentally opened it once). We now return to sender but still get them. Hate to think how much they have lost out on over the years of not getting these!

Anything 'worrying' that may have bailiffs at the door I've contacted the company. We had council tax demands for some time so I called the council in the end.
Bank statements I returned to sender for ages. They still come. They get binned.
Everything else was RTS for a year. Now it gets binned.

@VettiyaIruken

Don't worry about bailiffs. If they come to the door you can prove you're not who they're after plus give them the correct address.

I mean you can sort bailiffs at your door, but its a lot less stressful to return to sender than opening your door to bloody bailiffs! You think 'oh I'll just prove I'm not who they're looking for' but that comes with a certain level of panic when they're actually at your door that you don't get walking to the post box

Any junk mail - return to sender. Any final demands - open and contact the sender. Bailiffs will turn up at YOUR door. Return to sender doesn’t work for debt cases, as debtors often write ‘RTS’ on their own letters, and as this is the last known address for the debtor, that’s where bailiffs will attend.

I’m still getting bills from HMRC addressed to previous owner who is deceased. I have done return to sender, I have tried ringing them to explain.. this has been going on for almost 4 years and I still get letters for the poor chap from HMRC. I will now be putting them in the bin.

Yep as others have said ‘not known as this address, return to sender’ and pop it back in the post. The companies/organisations will get it back and update their records to say they don’t have a current address for them and make other enquiries if they’re chasing cash.

It’s nice that you were bringing their mail to them but even if they were appreciative (which they weren’t!) it’s not your responsibility, they are adults and need to sort their own address changes. If they are hiding from debt etc then it’ll catch up with them soon enough.

I had some womans magazine monthly for 18 months. I sent it back, I told the person I'd bought the house from. Still got the bloody thing.

In the end I emailed them and said 'look, you're sending this every month for me to recycle, please stop'. And it did.

More recently I've had all her PPI correspondence, including a reply to her complaint that they were seemingly ignoring her. Only so much you can do when faced with stupid.

Anything not returned or opened and contacted, suggest you shred not bin.

About a year after moving into our house I got so fed up of having to write no longer lives at this address on about 15 letters every week I just started binning them into recycling. 9 years later we still get 3 for them most weeks. We were never given a forward address or I would have written and told them have mail redirected. Estate agent said we could drop mail in for them to collect from them the week after completion but then after that said venders never collected it from them do don't drop off more.