to think in-laws unannounced late visits are unnaceptable.
offtobuttonmoon · 26/10/2007 20:14
They only seem to visit us at night, usually from 7pm onwards, being at their convenience, turning up unannounced. We don't have a routine but we do want evenings to be quiet time for our 2yr old.
My father-in-law always comments that she should be in bed despite knowing how we parent. When they visit she gets worked up and ends up going to sleep much later than she would of done if they were not there. It affects her the next day because she seems stroppy after her unexpected late night.
I keep asking my husband to say something but he hasn't yet. I think that he is worried about hurting their feelings and causing friction. Should I pluck up the courage and say something?
themildmanneredaxemurderer · 26/10/2007 20:15
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ThePhantomToiletFlusher · 26/10/2007 22:39
Do what harryruby says and carry on doing what you would do if they weren't there.
We had friends who used to do this (before they had kids)...I used to seethe...... Then I used to leave them sat donwstairs for ages whilst I bathed and put the kids to bed (which I used to do extra slow).
Funnily enough they stopped doing it after a bit.
They also have kids of their own now and are paranoid about you going round in case it interferes with their routine! Talk about pots and kettles!
professorplum · 26/10/2007 22:54
Is there any other reason why they come late such as your dh work, or their work hours. Are they doing it every few days. I would just carry on with bath and story etc at the same time as you would if they weren't there. If my family come round after dcs bed time then the creep in so even if my dcs are awake in bed, they won't know that there is anyone there. If they come before bed, I just say 'say goodnight to X' and take them upstairs.
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