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Elle887 · 09/01/2021 08:43

So yesterday I saw a post on Facebook about a guy going around knocking on houses in the next town asking people if they had any mould/damp. He said if so, then he would get in touch with the council and ‘make’ them sort it out. Everyone was commenting saying how this was a bogus/scam as they had confirmed it with the council and to not let anyone in. Even the local council had posted saying the same on their Facebook page. Anyway, around 5 o’clock yesterday we get a knock on the door. I quickly say to dp to not let anyone in. Next thing I know he is walking upstairs with him!! (We do have damp in one of the bedrooms and we were planning to call the council) I go to the bottom of the stairs and hear them discussing damp. I think shit! I shout up to dp to come downstairs. I explained to dp (in front of the man) what I had read on Facebook and told him that we weren’t interested. The man then started showing me a leaflet and told me to Google the company and that they were legit. I literally googled the company in front of dp and the man and guess what..it didn’t exist! The man continues to claim his innocence and dp is stupidly falling for it. By this point I am raging and giving dp dagger eyes. Next thing I know dp is giving the man his mobile number and agreed for the man to come back during the week to take pictures of the damp. Dp tells the man he would like to be at home whilst they come so the man asks dp what time he works and dp tells him. Now by this point I am shitting myself as I’ve just realised that this man now knows when dp will be out of the house. Me and dp have had a massive row about this and he is calling me paranoid. I am 32 weeks pregnant so it may possibly be my hormones making me more paranoid but I just don’t have a good feeling about all this! Dp is now acting like a child and is defending this man. I am so annoyed with him.

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Elle887 · 09/01/2021 08:44

Just realised how long the post isBlush sorry

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AlwaysCheddar · 09/01/2021 08:52

Your dh sounds like a complete tosser - letting a stranger in during lockdown, falling fir an obvious scan, handing out his mobile number and ignoring you.

AnneLovesGilbert · 09/01/2021 08:54

Is he always so stupid?

wellthatsunusual · 09/01/2021 08:54

Is he always so gullible?

Elle887 · 09/01/2021 08:55

@AlwaysCheddar yes the lockdown was also an issue I brought up. I can’t believe how stupid he has been

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Elle887 · 09/01/2021 08:55

@AnneLovesGilbert @wellthatsunusual yes and yes! Trusts people too easily and sees the good in everyone

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Theunamedcat · 09/01/2021 08:57

So you googled it infront of them and despite the fact that it DOESNT exist your dp carried on with it anyway?

You arnt with him for his brains are you

Elle887 · 09/01/2021 08:58

@Theunamedcat yep! Other than physically remove the man from my home (which obviously I couldn’t do) there was nothing else I could have done

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yankeedoodledandee · 09/01/2021 08:59

Make sure all your doors and windows are locked. Do you have a security camera? Might be worth the investment.

Lemonpiano · 09/01/2021 09:01

Has he done anything this breathtakingly stupid before?

Scaredykittycat · 09/01/2021 09:02

He will give up when your DP ignores him. Your DP is a complete idiot.

Terracottasaur · 09/01/2021 09:02

Is your husband usually so incredibly stupid?

Tell him to get a grip before some ‘Nigerian prince’ scams him for all your retirement money.

Elle887 · 09/01/2021 09:04

@yankeedoodledandee no we haven’t but will definitely be getting one now!

@Lemonpiano He trusts too easily and can’t say no. He’s just too nice sometimes (although right now he doesn’t sound it) hence why he can’t just be straight up with people

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Theunamedcat · 09/01/2021 09:09

[quote Elle887]@yankeedoodledandee no we haven’t but will definitely be getting one now!

@Lemonpiano He trusts too easily and can’t say no. He’s just too nice sometimes (although right now he doesn’t sound it) hence why he can’t just be straight up with people[/quote]
He has zero issues being unkind and saying no to you

Seeleyboo · 09/01/2021 09:13

Will you be leaving the baby with him Hmm

Morgan12 · 09/01/2021 09:16

How is he justifying this? What is he saying?

Elle887 · 09/01/2021 09:20

@Morgan12 we have spoke this morning and I have told him every reason why I am annoyed with him and he has admitted he has been stupid and that he’s sorry for not taking my feelings into account. Although he doesn’t seem to understand why I am worried about being home alone. I guess I’m just going to have to have my guard up now

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diddl · 09/01/2021 09:22

[quote Elle887]**@AnneLovesGilbert* @wellthatsunusual* yes and yes! Trusts people too easily and sees the good in everyone[/quote]
But you thought that this time would be different?

HaveITheRightToHoldYou · 09/01/2021 09:25

Do you actually live in a council house? If not why would anyone think the council would sort their damp issues.

Your DH is ridiculous for letting a stranger in your house during a pandemic. Did he even have a mask on? He has cased the joint and DH has told him when the house will be empty! He’s an idiot.

Elle887 · 09/01/2021 09:31

@HaveITheRightToHoldYou we do live in a council house. The man was basically slagging the council off saying they never repair damp issues so what his ‘company’ does is come into homes, takes pictures of the damp and if they council refuse or don’t fix the damp issue then they take them to court and the council would owe us money then his company would be entitled to a certain percentage?Confused something along those lines. Very far fetched

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BornIn78 · 09/01/2021 09:35

Me and dp have had a massive row about this and he is calling me paranoid

Dp is now acting like a child and is defending this man

Your DP is really not “too nice”. Or maybe he is... to everyone but you.

He’s let a stranger into your home during lockdown, you googled the company in front of them both which doesn’t exist, there are posts on Facebook explaining it’s a scam, this stranger now knows the layout of your house and your DP has told him exactly when he won’t be at home.

Please don’t leave your baby alone with him, he has shit for brains.

AnneLovesGilbert · 09/01/2021 09:52

He doesn’t mind saying no to you. He’d rather piss you off than some random he must have known was extremely dodgy.

I’d struggle to stay with someone who didn’t give a shit what I thought tbh.

LouiseTrees · 09/01/2021 10:29

Get a sign indicating you have bought a guard dog. Tell your neighbours you havent if you are not allowed pets and don’t want shopping to a landlord. Your DP not the brightest to have done what he has but key is now to keep safe.

diddl · 09/01/2021 13:27

"come into homes, takes pictures"

Good grief-might as well hand the keys over!

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