Aibu to be losing my live and let live mentality?

[Missmummy88]

I’m really struggling to abide by a motto I try to live by daily : live and let live.

Two of my close friends have sent their children to school with the key worker provision. Now don’t get me wrong, I fully support the need for this spaces, but I also see that these need to be reserved for those in need and kept to a minimum to keep schools COVID safe.

Friend 1 has her two children in as her husband is a lawyer - therefore in the justice system. She is a stay at home mum. She argued because of her DH job she was entitled to the spaces. So she is not working but is also taking a critical space.

Friend 2, who initially was outraged at friend 1 has signed up to an agency of critical workers (think bank / agency staff) therefore counts as a critical worker even though she’s not taking any jobs. She has not done any bank work or any work at all for the last 6 months but chooses this week to re sign up but has admitted she hasn’t taken any shifts (this is not nhs - so no argument that she is helping in the treatment of COVID!)!

I keep telling myself “live and let live” but I am struggling tbh. They were the first ones to call out that we needed a lockdown, but also have massive double standards in sending their children to school. So it’s ok for everyone else to struggle with jobs abs homeschooling but not them.

Aibu? Should I wind my neck in and focus on me and mine? Or am I right to judge them as selfish and irresponsible??

Yeah those two examples would piss me off no end. Though I will say neither of their children would have been offered a place in my kids school as the criteria is higher than that.

YANBU.

My friend is sending her almost 15 year old although he’d be fine home alone for 6 hours whilst she works.

My other friend has a 5 year old, is a KW, only works two days a week but has lied to the school and told them she works 5 days a week so she can send him every day. She told me she’s done it because she doesn’t want him at home with her because she needs a break from him sometimes.

Live and let live doesn't mean you can't think someone else is doing the wrong thing. It means even though you think others are doing the wrong thing, you accept it isn't your job/right to address it.

It is possible there is more than you know, but it does appear they are not really making the best decisions for public health, which is frustrating.

This is really frustrating. I feel your pain. I know a man who has flouted rules left right and centre. He is a hospital consultant, working mostly privately (doing the minimum of nhs work possible).

Healthy, in his 30s. Antivaxer. Covid conspiracy theorist.

Yes he has had the vaccine. Nurses and doctors working in high risk areas of the same nhs hospital that he occasionally works in haven't had it, but he has.

He hasn't even been on a rota to do any nhs work in hospital since mid December. So he wasn't magically in the right place at the right time.

It's really annoyed me.

I'm intrigued all these schools are accepting children just on parents word. We had to fill in a form and give our employer details to verify that we are keyworkers!

I know what you mean. Things will get worse, restriction will be longer. Know someone who is sending his kid in and I hate the way he talks about the child like he hates having him around

These are the people that make all this go on for longer. People just want to think of themselves. They would have such a shock if their decision to send dc to school was instrumental in bringing covid in to their house. Makes me angry too OP

Why would an antivaxer have the vaccine?

@itchyfinger I've no idea. I guess that as he's had the vaccine can't call him an antivaxer- but in the past he has not allowed his DC to have routine vaccinations.

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I agree with you, OP

I live in Scotland, and you only get a place in school if you are a single parent, or if both parents are key workers. I'm at a loss to understand why it's different in England

As an NHS worker I find this incredibly frustrating and disheartening after what I’m witnessing at work.
It’s going to get much much worse when people are so selfish.

Sorry posted on the wrong thread. I absolutely agree op. This will just go on longer.

You can't confront them about it without causing a scene, and it may not be worth it to you. I'm not causing a scene with all the local families here who are exploiting the system and taking the piss, which is many of them. It won't change anything and will cause trouble.

But it's changed how I see them and I'm surprised at the depth of my feeling. I won't do anything to spoil my daughter's friendships when she's allowed to see them again but it's definitely going to be a case of her friendships and not mine.

I thought we were in this together and in the case of some of the SAHMs, I believed them when they said they felt they were doing a societal good and definitely weren't lazy or workshy.