Sulking man!

[slippersrule]

I have a sulking DP issue.
Genuinely don't know if IABU here?
Ok, so today we have both been off work, lovely day, sleep in, cooked breakfast together etc
He's watching tv and I remark that our cars are really dirty
A year ago he volunteered to clean my car and accidentally scratched it, he felt awful but I laughed it off, no big deal it's really old, he felt awful though apologising profusely
So he responds to my comment on the card being dirty yes I know
I made what I thought was funny comment I won't ask you to do mine again haha
Thought no more of it and continued cleaning the house, wasn't said in a way to make him mad or feel bad at all, I thought nothing of it tbh
So he decides to go and read upstairs, again, no big deal it's quiet and comfy up there, I go up a couple of hours later and he launches into "you've upset me now, goading me about your car you know I felt bad"
I apologised and said it wasn't meant to make him feel bad at all, was just a jokey comment and he's having none of it
I've made dinner and his is left untouched, he's sulking upstairs still
AIBU?
I see no reason why he thinks I'd go out of my way to spoil an otherwise lovely rare day off together by bringing something up that although he was responsible for, I laughed off as an accident?
Honestly don't think I've done anything wrong to warrant a colossal sulk!

I think avoiding you for hours and refusing food you've cooked is a massive over reaction to one comment...the way you've described it here it sounds as though it was obvious you were joking. Does he often sulk like this?

No!! Really out of character!
Pure over reaction

Mine would have laughed along. He’s hugely overreacting.

Go and tell him that he is behaving the way you were entitled to when he damaged your car - but since it was done accidentally you thought it unfair to rub it in and make him feel worse.
Maybe he could do you the same curtesy — the damage to his feelings was accidental.

He's massively over reacting. We joke like that all the time. The other would have fake sulked for 5 seconds then it'd be over with.

I didn't even know he was upset about it until I went up to put laundry away and he literally let rip as to how upset he was as I knew he felt bad about it
Now I'm the one who's annoyed that he's spoiled an otherwise lovely day together!

What an unattractive man.

He’s acting like a child. I’d leave him to his wee sulk. Jeez my DH called me a tit the other day by accident (long story), I just did faux outrage then laughed.

If he's not usually like it, i'd just forget about it. Today, I cried because I spilt pasata on my kitchen floor and trainers. This is not usually me (although tbf I have never been in that exact position before.)

I don't know, things are tough right now and if it's something he was sensitive about maybe it's just the straw that broke the camels back for him.

The sulking isn't at all justified and not having food.... Well he's just cutting his nose off there. But when you went up he told you what's wrong hut just seems to be wallowing in it.

You've said this isn't like him so I think you have to cut him some slack.aybe talk to him another day about what's actually going on.

When I was pregnant I had a sneezing fit and wet myself a bit in the house and when my husband came back I cried. Not a big deal, weeks later he made a joke about it, just between the two of us, I went nuts about it. He genuinely had no idea but it was something that had really stuck with me, so maybe this is just something that has really stuck with him.

Like I say if it's out of character I'd give him some slack.

Completely ignore him. That's the best way to deal with toddler tantrums. Works on big babies and little babies.

I've poured myself a gin and am painting my nails. Don't want to argue with him, and I think he knew from my reaction that I genuinely didn't mean to upset him, but I'm not going begging for forgiveness... I'll leave him to it

I have found that no one sulks without an audience.